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Missing my granddaughter

(43 Posts)
Kim19 Tue 24-Apr-18 11:44:24

Not nice for you but she'll come round. Just leave her be. Fickle creatures we women!

lesley4357 Tue 24-Apr-18 11:35:26

Sounds like she's jealous of her brother and, in her mind, is rejecting before you reject her for your dgs. I had it occasionally with my gd after gs was born. I had to make sure I made a fuss of her first, and she got to sit in my knee, not gs. She got over and we're back to being really close again.

ReadyMeals Tue 24-Apr-18 11:19:36

Nonetheless be aware of the potential link between exhaust fumes and sickness even if the sickness isn't linked to the offishness.

Jazzy1527 Tue 24-Apr-18 11:06:33

Trying to put it down to the car sickness thing, but she just seems generally offhand with me at the moment. No big hugs when I arrive etc.maybe we just have to accept they grow up a lot faster these days. My 2 year old grandson, on the other hand, would live at my house if he could, and is always ecstatic to see me. Oh well.....its never easy!

farmgran Tue 24-Apr-18 10:54:06

My 6 year old GD occasionally goes off staying with me and her other nanny. The only reason it could be is that she misses her 3 year old twin brother and sister. When this first happened I was very hurt but I've got used to it now. Girls are so jolly changeable! Sometimes I have the twins to stay as well, maybe you could do the same with your little grandson

Mary59nana Tue 24-Apr-18 10:28:24

Car sickness is properly the reason Jazzy
I remember when I was a little girl and I was sick in the car from then on never wanted to go anywhere that was to far away.
Short trips were ok but I knew in my mind no further than ....

It would be a good plan of action just to let it be at the moment and then take her out for a treat stop of a couple of times but unbeknown to her your actually on route to your home,
Once you have both arrived without that horrible feeling of sickness she will be so happy and your problem will be solved smile

Nitpick48 Tue 24-Apr-18 10:18:27

Same with my grandaughter but she loves the train!!

ReadyMeals Tue 24-Apr-18 10:12:19

Jazzy get your exhaust checked. When I was a kid I used to always feel sick in our car but not on very short journeys or if I was allowed to sit in front and not in other people's cars. My parents thought I was playing up, until they had another passenger in the back who was also sick, and said they didn't usually get car sick. Then when it had to have it's test, it turned out there was an exhaust leak under the back seat and people in the back were getting mild carbon monoxide poisoning. After that was dealt with my car sickness was over.

SillyNanny321 Tue 24-Apr-18 10:07:04

My 7(just) year old DGS will not have sleepovers anywhere unless his Mum is there too. He wants his friends to have sleepovers at his but will not go to theirs. He often asks if I will have a sleepover with him but will not come to mine. I think he still needs his Mum as a 'safety blanket'! So maybe there are others who feel the same & your DG may have suddenly felt like this. My DS did not go off for sleep overs till fairly late in age about 9 years old.

M0nica Mon 23-Apr-18 15:46:19

Count your blessings. DGS is coming up to 8 and has yet to spend a single night away from home without is Mum. His mother has been doing everything to encourage him to do so and his elder sister has no hang-ups about staying with us - and we live 200 miles from them, but he is adamant. He has had to manage nights at home with just his Dad when his mother was away on business, but that is his limit.

Luckygirl Mon 23-Apr-18 13:37:12

Can't have little brother having all the attention! - if she stays put at home then she is able to make sure she is getting her share!

Willow500 Mon 23-Apr-18 13:34:43

Very probably car sickness - I stopped visiting my grandparents as soon as I was able to stay home on my own as I hated travelling. Very sad - I hope she gets over her reluctance to visit. I certainly regret not getting to know my grandparents properly.

gillybob Mon 23-Apr-18 12:22:54

I think you may have solved your own mystery Jazzy1527.

The problem is either the long car journey (especially if she suffers from car sickness) and/or the baby brother whom she will think is getting all mummy's love and attention while she is away.

Jazzy1527 Mon 23-Apr-18 12:16:32

The only thing I can think of, is that she was sick in the car when I was taking her home last time (40 minute car journey) and she seemd to develop a bit of a phobia about being sick in my car again. However, she has since been for short journeys in it and seems ok. Her daddy offered to run her over and come back for her, but she still wouldnt come. Also have a jealousy problem over her two year old brother. Shes happy for him to come for a sleepover!

gillybob Mon 23-Apr-18 12:01:28

I agree with silverlining and wonder if there is a problem at home, or perhaps something that she feels she may miss out on if she's not there? Alternatively could something (however trivial) have happened while she was staying with you that may have put her off?

Like you I would be gutted if mine decided they didn't want to stay over any longer but I'm sure given time, she will come round. Maybe just a bit of an insecurity stage.

silverlining48 Mon 23-Apr-18 11:56:20

That’s very sad, just a thought but Is there a problem at home perhaps which makes her want to stay there?
Otherwise carry on being a happy and loving grandma and wait to see if this us just a temporary whim.

Nanabilly Mon 23-Apr-18 10:42:30

Oh no i think I would be mortified if my gc said no more sleepovers to me but I would just have to accept it and hope that they changed their mind later on.
Put on a brave face and hope your little buddy changes her mind .

Jazzy1527 Mon 23-Apr-18 10:37:41

From being my best little buddy, my seven year old granddaughter has decided she doesnt want to come for sleepovers any more. She says she misses mummy too much. I am so upset, as since she was a baby she has loved staying with us every couple of weeks. She seems ambivilent towards me, and its as if she just doesnt care any more. Any help would be appreciated.