In-laws

Why should Henanbien64 give up the tranquility of her home? DS finding accommodation in the village?

Are you saying that you go over to the mainland to meet them there, rather than them crossing to the island? I may be reading it wrong. Was your stepson brought up on the island? If so I can certainly understand why he might prefer to come over and stay with you. Sorry if I have misunderstood your post.

they're your husbands family its not unreasonable of them to want to stay at their fathers/grandpa's home.I think you need to put your dislike of him aside and try to be friends for your husbands sake

I agree with mumofmadboys, try a short stay, marriage often means compromise in some areas. Why do you dislike having people to stay ?

No, you are not unreasonable. Can't they find accommodations in the village?

Could you compromise and agree to a short stay like three days and two nights? You may surprise yourself and enjoy it! Your DH would probably be pleased. Good luck!

We are divorced and remarried.My husband has two sons. One of them has two girls which are really sweet.Because we live on an Island it needs a ferry crossing.We usually meet half way. I find this meeting up a really nice way to meet up. The problem is I don't get on with the son.Every time we meet he keeps on about staying with us. That means an invasion to me!They are both very religious and insist on being permanently smiley. They take over the bathroom and try to take over the kitchen. I have a back problem which means I have to take painkillers all the time. I find the way they invite themselves really annoying.We are never invited there. Not that I want to!I hate with a passion anyone staying in my house.It was never done when I was young and I would never dream of inviting myself anywhere.I think they also do this to their friends. Am I being unreasonable?