Oh twinsgran thank you so much for posting - this is just what I need to hear. It's been such a rollercoaster, with the babies both having infections, one a lumbar puncture (nothing found) and the other an attempted lumbar puncture which wouldn't work, but fortunately no ill effects. One baby had a swollen arm and it was thought she may have an abcess, but it turned out to be a leaking IV tube. That's gone now, thank goodness. They are 4 weeks old today and both have gained 1 lb in weight. Polly, the larger baby at 3.1/2 lbs has gone into a warm cot instead of her incubator today, and is taking breast milk by bottle, which is wonderful to see. Alice, at 3 lbs, is jigging around in her incubator, undoing anything she can (heart monitor found grasped in her hand the other day, when it went silent!) and constantly being put back on her cocoon mattress when she has slid to the end of her incubator.
It's quite daunting to walk in the nursery and see your grandchild having a brain scan or x-ray, but the hospital is really on the ball, and it's all good news so far. The babies already bring great joy to our family, and I phone or see my daughter every day for an update. I get to see them once a week, sometimes more often, and that's because I live 5 minutes from the hospital.
Please don't think you're getting in the way. I tend to text my daughter first, in case she's busy, and a few minutes later she'll phone back, so I know I can relax because she's found a few moments for a chat. If she doesn't respond, I phone SIL and he will talk to me instead. They both know they'll be even busier when the babies come home, but the warm support of mum/gran is so comforting when you're dashing round with demanding babies. Thanks again for posting 