My Grandfather was born in Northern Ireland and enlisted in the Royal Artillery to fight for Queen and Country in the Boer War. He rose through the ranks, was commissioned as an officer and retired with the rank of Major and an OBE
He married and had a large family and we, children and grandchildren, were always told that his father had died before he was born and his mother died when he was 10 and he was brought up by an uncle who was a farmer.
One day in the early 2000s when there was a family gathering of the older generation a discussion about where he came from arose and the usual story was being referred to when one of my aunts who had lived at home all her life suddenly commented that she wasnt sure about it because she had seen his mother's death certificate and she was described on it as a 'spinster'. There was a stunned silence and the conversation moved on. He also had her surname
I have since done some research and now know that in fact he was born illegitimate and grew up in close to abject poverty and that his uncle was actually a farm labourer. But as a clever and ambitious young man carving out a quite remarkable career in a prestigious regiment and in a society where illegitamacy was a badge of shame he was, of necessity, economical with the truth.
If it hadnt been for the chance sight my aunt had we would never known because she saw it when my grandfather, as an old man, was bundling up and destroying any documents, including his mothers death certificate, that might reveal his origins. How my aunt managed to see the certificate I will never know as she has since died.