How to cope with not being able to see grandchildren over the holidays

Marin I understand you are upset about not seeing your grandchildren. However I think the most concerning thing is whether your grandchildren are safe. You mention mental health issues and neglect. The parents mock you and are abusive to you. How are they I wonder with the kids?

If social services are not involved in anyway then I think you should contact them ....or ring the NSPCC for urgent advice.

How are those parents getting away with neglecting the children ? Don't they have support from the authorities ?

My sister, who does not have mental health issues, once stopped her son from going to his grandmas due to his grades. He wasnt allowed to go ANYWHERE. So that alone is not something that would worry me.

Plus, well COVID. ??

I too am interested in how the gc are being neglected. Some more info may help to offer us insight.

lots of people will not be able to see GC this year, and i think it's probably safer not to.
the less mingling the better, the sooner the virus can be got under control.
but it seems there are wider issues with your GC and their parents.

in what way do they neglect them ?

I'm sorry to hear about your situation Marin. I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be not knowing from one day to the next if you're going to be able to see your GC.

You say your son and d.i.l. have mental health issues, are social services involved to ensure that they and the children are OK?