We can now go out when we want and shops / zoos etc open monday so will get worse with everyone out and about , more cars on the road too , back at work too ...but as long as we are keeping 2 m rules and follow instructions when out that’s the main thing
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(92 Posts)I’m feeling extreme anger at people breaking the rules around lockdown. Mostly friends and family closest to me. I’ve stuck to the rules rigorously having had pneumonia in the past and have not seen my family for 8 months now as they live too far away. I’m finding that hard but what is making me feel ill with rage is these people breaking rules to see theirs. One of them has been told to shield, calls people on tv who she sees breaking the rules but then goes in and out of her friends houses for coffee with not a care, let’s her grown children visit with her grandchildren and gives them hugs. Another friend shares car rides with friends, goes in her daughters house for coffee and has her round too and plays with and hugs her grandchildren. I feel that I’m sticking to the rules and suffering from the separation from family while they break the rules and are as happy as Larry. The anger is eating away at me and I don’t really want it to but can’t help it. I’m also bottling up my feelings and not saying anything to them as I know one day this will be over and I may lose friendships over it if I don’t keep my mouth shut. Sorry just needed a rant and to get it off my chest to someone.
As your grandchildren can. Now visit your home and some have to help out with care of them , everyone in different situations and shouldn’t be judged for what they decide to do to help as some have no choice but to help with their grandchildren
If in the garden what else can you do when it’s raining !!
She has done nothing wrong !
I don’t get angry with rule breakers but a nasty bit of me hopes they get ill.
Sadly I’m sure there will be thousands flocking to protests of one kind or another this weekend.
I know it's annoying but getting angry just affects your mood and can be detrimental to you, and those living with you.
I have friends who just do their own thing, they are generally risk takers in normal life, and I know I there is no point in trying to change them.
I do think the risks from meeting up outside have been shown to be extremely low, particularly if distancing.
For myself I am not convinced that the infection rate is yet low enough to cause people to be so blasé and hope that careless behaviour doesn't promote a new surge. Time will tell. Perhaps another 3 or 4 weeks?
What is the worst kind of example of human nature? People flouting the rules a bit or people who hope others get ill by doing so!!
I'd say they come out about the same.
I agree with you there Quizqueen, Wishing people unwell with Corona virus,or anything else is shocking.
Just do the best you can and keep your distance from these people that disregard the rules. Do you really want them as friends.
I doubt many of us would want Dominic Cummings or his wife as friends.
I guess I’ll get turned down for the nunnery then.
I have had my eyes opened by some of my neighbours who have flouted the rules since day 1 of the lockdown.
I am very unimpressed by their behaviour but I know there are many like them. Nothing I can do to change them but I do understand why people who are abiding by the rules get so frustrated by their blatant disregard for others.
An elderly friend of mind told me that her mobile hairdresser had visited. I couldn't quite believe what I was hearing.
I blame the mobile hairdresser as my friend is very elderly and frail and I genuinely think she believed her hairdresser when she was told "oh yes, mobile hairdressers can visit".
If I wished to do so, I imagine I could make trouble for the hairdresser but I would also land my friend in it.
Also, I am not 100% sure that it wouldn't count as care for the vulnerable. I suspect it would not count as this.
You make a good point quizqueen
The Chief Nursing Officer for England has been dropped from daily briefings for refusing to back Dominic Cummings
www.theguardian.com/politics/2020/jun/12/chief-nurse-dropped-from-no-10-briefing-for-not-backing-cummings
The thing is, it's easy to say disregard those who break the rules and just to keep oneself safe, but the disregarders will force those of us who are shielding to be isolated for even longer if there's an upsurge in infections.
My nextdoor neighbours not only had friends round last weekend having a raucous get-together but, judging by the cars parked outside, several of them stayed the whole weekend and at least one other couple stayed the whole week.
This behaviour is very upsetting and frustrating for those of us - like me - who haven't seen grandchildren and DD since Christmas, and have only seen DS twice in a socially distanced garden visit..... in which we couldn't hear ourselves speak because of the neighbours' drunken racket from nextdoor.
Let’s just pray the rule breakers don’t cause a surge in the infection because I don’t want to go back into strict lockdown, selfish idiotic people do they not realise we are in the middle of a pandemic it’s not over yet !!
It makes me angry even if it doesn’t immediately impact on me and mine. Ultimately, these selfish b******s WILL affect us all by allowing a second wave, resulting in a further lockdown, more deaths ( and risk to my daughters who both work in the NHS) and even more damage to the economy. I think everyone should adhere to all the rules do we can have a hope of getting this beaten. ?
I have got friends/ neighbours picking rules to suit themselves as well. The bit I find difficult is I get the feeling they think I’m wrong and a bit of weirdo/pussy for continuing to follow the rules put up, which in Scotland ( as we are behind still ) are not really complex.
More wise words from SueDonim here and exactly what I advise. No need to get angry ... that only hurts you. You must do what you feel is right for you and take no notice of what others are getting up to, whether they are friends or not. I guess they all have their own standards or ideas of what is safe.
Don't worry about others will cause you anxiety
I live in Wales where we are only allowed to travel 5 miles away from home. The police are patrolling and enforcing this law. Unlike in England this is enforceable by the police. It makes me angry when people from England are stopped by the police hundreds of miles away from home and as one lady said she thought that Wales was in England and didn't know that wales was a separate country with different laws. Perhaps the fact that she and her children were the only ones on the beach should have told her something!!
There have always been and always will be people who are selfish and think rules and regulation apply to everyone but themself. As long as you are doing what you know to be safe for you and those you encounter, forget about the idiots with no commonsense, you won't change them.
My view is that a lot of people are interpreting lockdown rules to suit themselves. Initially this did anger me however, anger is an emotion which takes a lot of energy, I would rather channel my energy positively. Providing other people’s actions do not directly affect me I would not get involved.
I think the OP says it all when she admits to anger eating away at her. Concentrate on looking after yourself the way that you see fit and stop worrying about others, if they are not directly endangering you. Some people's lives are not as straightforward as others and have acted in a way that you see as breaking the rules, but you don't know exactly what risk assessment they have done, or their precise circumstances.
Wishing the virus upon those you see as rule breakers is vile (not OP some replies)
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