Social distancing (again)

It is a lovely thought.

However, if your husband has COPD and 76 , shouldn't he be shielding and that should be suffice for your friends?

It's not just where you sit though, is it?
There's crockery, cutlery, glasses, cups to think about.
Not to mention the toilet!
It's a lovely gesture from your friend but probably not a good idea, especially if you're not happy about it.

For my birthday last week we ordered an Indian takeaway as usual. Normally we'd have invited our son to join us but that couldn't happen, so my husband asked the restaurant to put his meal in a separate bag and left it on his doorstep for him!

Dh not dj

This is against the social distancing rules. We are not allowed to meet up like this. Personally with my DJ’s heart condition and both of us being over 70 no way would we go. We have socially isolated since early March and will continue to do so until a vaccine or treatment is found.

No you aren’t wrong, you do what you think is best for you both, personally I think you are being sensible

Could you do a virtual part via Skype, FaceTime or Zoom? It was my sister in laws birthday a couple of weeks ago and we both baked scones and cakes and chatted for an hour. It makes for a different meeting but still means you can celebrate.

If she has taken offence then she will get over it. Harder to get over the death of a loved one.