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What a weirdly phrased question!
My husband is dead, but if he were still here I would be delighted to share an activity or past time with him so long as it was suitable for us both.

If it makes them happy I let them get on with it.

There's his stuff, my stuff and our stuff. Works brilliantly - well, it has done up to now !!

I tell him to butt out and find go and cut the grass ?

My husband decided to take over the kitchen when he retired and I was still working. He doesn't do things the way I do but I just had to let it go. Now I am retired, I tried to reclaim the kitchen but he was in the habit of it so I just leave him to it. Occasionally, I offer to do things and then he hovers over me which drives me crazy. He is meticulous about timings, temperatures etc. where I am much more flexible and laid back. He always asks when I want to eat, which drives me crazy because I don't really care and don't like to be pinned down so, to annoy him, I say random times like 5.49 or something! I love him really and he is a good cook, thankfully!

Very unlikely that either of would get involved in each other’s hobbies or household roles for that matter. I can’t really say how I’d react as I have no experience. I think we’d both be OK with it!

We often share, but know our boundaries.

There has been a lot more crossover of interests in the current circumstances

we share mostly so not a problem.

Now you mention it he can attempt to take over.......

I would have to take deep breath and get over it

I'm usually happy to have the help

I would be really happy if he did get involved

Your post resonated with me, skyedog. My DH follows instructions meticulously like yours, and won’t deviate from a recipe, or substitute even a minor ingredient. Probably because of this, and because I’m so slapdash, he’s a better cook than I am, so I never interfere!

I would be happy to share with him as it would be something we could do together, especially in this crazy time!

I don’t mind as long as he does it the way I want, he usually loses interest pretty quickly anyway and leaves me to it...which is fine by me!

If that happened then I think pigs will be flying!

I would welcome it as shared interest

We were an attraction of opposites. It simply never occurred!

I feel guilty when he does something that I think of as my job.

We tend to have our own leisure interests, but during the lockdown my husband has been joining me on my exploration of local footpaths. The walks seem to take longer as there are many discussions about which path to take. When walking on my own I can happily head wherever I want.

I would be amazed if he wanted to, but very happy as along as he didn't start telling me how to do things. It would be a nice change to do things together.

I don't mind, isn't that the whole point of being together

I don't mind and would be happy as long as we can still have some individual interests.

nothing really don't mind if he wants to join in at all