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My oldest grandson is only 4 but I always listen to whatever he tells me and offer answers he can understand for any questions he asks me. Most of all I always let him know that he is loved no matter what. Also give lots of cuddles when he lets me.

Listen to them.....treat them as small adults. Their worries may seem huge to them.....please don't laugh at their mistakes.... and love them unconditionally.
Encourage and join in their games...let them know winning isn't everything.

Ask them lots of questions about there day, school, what they are up to as it makes them feel included and special. Save some time for a cuddle and to ask about their day and what they would like to do tomorrow.
My son used to get really frustrated within himself if he couldn't do something, the words you can do anything, keep trying but take it slow ill wait with you seemed to really help.

Listening and actually taking on board what they say and encouraging and building up their skills in what ever they have a natural aptitude for. Every one has something that they are better at than anything else, the trick is to find that and help them believe in themselves.

Give them some responsibility. Put them in charge of feeding the dog or take them food shopping and get them to find ingredients for a meal of their choosing.

Say yes more then no. This gives the child a sense that they have some control over their little lives.
Also don't let your fears and worries become theirs. If they want to go on the super scary big slide let them atleast time.

See the world through their eyes, listen, accept them as they are, help them understand that opinions are just that, they are not fact. Help them accept failure as well as success and not to hang their personal value on success. Think with them about appropriate responsibility particularly help them, to see that they are not responsible for the feelings of others. That it is all right to be who they are.

Encourage, praise and support.

Very important to support them and encourage when they feel they can't do something then help them take little steps to achievement praising each small step. Lots of little steps make one big achievement.

A good way it to take them shopping ask their advice on products or thoughts and get them to pay for things or ask if price is right.

It is important not to criticise small children or put them down. By all means correct them but speak kindly,encourage them to speak by asking questions and explain things clearly and gently. Giving them this experience will help them learn to speak and enquire about the world with confidence and nurture their curiosity, their debating skills and verbalise their point of view.

Don't label you child e.g. shy as these very often become the way a child perceives themselves, I was constantly told I was shy/quiet as a child and I lacked confidence for years. I always encouraged my children to participate in activities and to try new things and they have all grown into confident adults.

My little niece goes to dance classes on Friday mornings. It's done wonders for her confidence.

Lots of cuddles and listen to what they are saying. When mine were small we used to have a `five minutes` each talk time at the dinner table. I done this to encourage my very shy daughter to actually talk in a group. It did help

Always take time to listen to them. If they want to try something by themselves like carry their cup of juice into another room or carry a plate then let them what is the worst that can happen? Juice on the floor. As long as it's not dangerous let them have a go. Praise them and never belittle or let anyone else belittle anything they try to do.

Listening to them and giving lots of praise. Not doing everything for them, but supporting while they find out things for themselves.

Find out what interests them and then develop that interest together so that they can become an 'expert' - whether it's knowing about dinosaurs or guinea pigs, riding a bike or baking a cake, nothing increases confidence and self-esteem more than achieving a goal. Learn along with them and make mistakes so that they know that it's okay to get things wrong. Praise their achievements (but not incessantly as it becomes meaningless) and give them small-step challenges so they can keep on developing their skills. Most of all be patient, positive and good-humoured and let them be themselves.

Find ways to gently encourage them to conquer any fears that they may have and then demonstrate how much you respect their achievement.

I never talk down to my grandchildren. They enjoy our conversations and if they don't understand a word, I explain. I think of them as 'little people' and I think it builds their confidence by treating them as individuals. If they do something well, I tell them so. If they could do better, I tell them that too.

Let them know that you love them unconditionally .
Let them be involved in taking age appropriate decisions, and always listen and respect what they have to say.
Encourage them to try lots of activities and support them through their successes and disappointments.
Be a confident adult and don't let them see you unable to cope. As a parent you are your child's main role model.
Encourage them to take risks and make sure they know that they cannot be good at everything and give them examples of what you are good at & less good at.
Be open and honest and encourage your child to talk to you, make time every day for a quiet chat so they know you are always there if needed.

Give them easy tasks to do and shower them with praise,like watering the plants,and giving them their own flower or vegetable to look after,they will feel very proud watching it grow

A way to build confidence is role play like a dentist visit, step by step so there's no surprises to the child. They can ask questions about anything there unsure of in the comfort of their home. Its the unknown that creates fear so role-play is very helpful and be done by everyone.

Make time to listen to them and encourage them to do things with you

Encourage a 'I Can Do' attitude to life.

eg I can dress myself, put on my shoes, feed myself, reach the light switch, jump off the step........etc.

Anything new they do, especially without prompting or guidance, reward with with great praise.

Praise when praise is due. Listen to them. Love & cuddle them. Be fair & firm.