Denture and a date - Help!

Never mind the teeth, by the time I've dyed my hair, put my make up on, slipped into the spanx underwear, nice dress and added sparkly jewellery, I'm definitely out of the realms of wysiwyg. My lovely hubby doesn't mind either way and nor should any man who's worth his salt. .

Hi, I have a very precarious plate and quite a few gaps. Use fixodent and don`t worry. I met my partner 4 years ago and nothing has come adrift! Practice with the fixodent before the day, and have a brilliant time. If he`s good company you`ll forget about your teeth. Happy snogging!

DH uses fixadent gold. Works well.

Husband

I've had a partial 4 front teeth since I was in my 20s and therefore have done ALL my dating with it No one has ever noticed or been repulsed My his and didn't know until we were living together lol RELAX

Marieeliz

I have a bridge which I was told in 2006, would not last, dentist said I should have dentures. I have a horror of them because he also told me that they would need to be removed regularly to let the gums breath. Hence 12 years later I am still wearing temporary bridge. I was also told, although I already have two implants, that because of my age there would not be enough bone to do implant dentures.

If anyone knows different let me know.

I am in the process of having my bridge removed and replaced with a full top denture, cost me £1500 so I’m hoping it will be really good. My dentist told there will be no need to use fixative as it will fit my mouth perfectly. I have to have a temporary denture for six months and then the final one…😬

My Mum had all her teeth removed and replaced with dentures while Dad was in the Army...he didn't find out - for 25 years! He came home unexpectedly from work while Mum had her teeth soaking - he was amazed and couldn't believe he hadn't noticed

He's older than you and might well have dentures too! In any case he's not going to be a perfect specimen - Who is at that age?

His words yes.

He's a little superficial? Really?!

Hi Sazz - that's a good polite way ? I had a lunch date today with my ex husband, although we are still married. Long horrible story. Buthe ended up kissing him ( no open mouths). But forgot the denture in that moment!

I found this polite way of saying ‘thanks but no thanks’ online and I used it with my own personalisation
‘Thank you for taking the time to meet with me, I really appreciated it and enjoyed the day but didn’t feel like there was any chemistry between us, and thats what I’m looking for right now. I wish you the very best in your search for someone, I’m sure it will be soon. Thanks again.’ Sazz

Thank you all for your amazing support. I think if there is no spark at all its unfair to venture further with it. I wish I had felt it after all the worry. But one down and I will maybe see .... not quite sure I'm cut out for it to be honest. I think meeting someone quickly rather than lots of calls etc is good advice. Saves the huge build up and then let down for both.
I will hopefully be back for more advice!

Glad you got on ok Deni and are safe and sound - friends used to tell me to be careful when I went on these dates! I always used to meet in the daytime, mainly because I couldn't see too well to drive at night, but also, meeting in the daytime felt more relaxed, more casual and less of a “date”. So many of the men I met were a disappointment. They might sound ok and just what I was looking for, but if the chemistry was not right and there was no “spark” and you couldn’t bear the thought of kissing them, let alone anything else, well what was the point? Some people say there is more to a relationship than the physical side, but then we are all different. That old saying about having to kiss a lot of frogs is certainly true! Good luck for your next date! x

Im glad you had a pleasant evening Deni1963 but just put down to experience. You’ve done your first internet date now . Like I said earlier, it’s so easy to think that after chatting on line and phone, meeting is just going to be a formality and you’ll fall for each other on sight but after my 30 dates, I would advise anyone internet dating to meet up as soon as possible. I could write a book on my experiences but in the end I met my DH2in a kebab shop at 2.30 in the morning after a night out with my (also single) girlfriends doing things we should have done in our 20s. It was 7 years later when we got together but each internet experience taught me what I didn’t want as well as what I did. Keep on keeping on!

Schools, college, university, clubs. When we were young life was teeming with possible love interests. Probably hundreds over the years.

In my experience there were scant few that I was attracted to. These young men shone out of the crowd in my eyes. Not the best looking ones either.
Other girls had their eye on someone else. We are attracted to different things and it would be a miracle if the right man turned up from the Internet first time.

Hence my advice that you'll need to meet many, many, men to find your special one.
Then with luck he'll feel the same about you.

I'm glad it went ok, deni.
At least you had a nice time, and he was a decent man.
Phew!

Glad you enjoyed your date night Denil963. Physical attraction is a biggie isn’t it? I’ve never done it, but I think that’s why the concept of ‘speed dating’ is a good one! I bet a few minutes with someone would be long enough to know whether or not there is a spark. Or obvious dentures.....

Sending you a hug.
That's the trouble with photos, they are two dimensional.
Don't stop Internet dating.
I'd say meet as many as you can, take it far less seriously, that attraction and instant easiness could appear with one of the many.

Hey.
What can I say? The date was good, lovely man, funny, bright. But I felt not one ounce of desire to snog him. He looked different to the photos - so I'd worried about it so much ! Ended the night with a peck on the mouth. But I wasn't going any further ?

Hope she’s ok! Can’t wait to hear from her. Let’s hope the date wasn’t cancelled due to bad weather!

Wonder how Deni1963 got on ?

I don't see why being put off by the idea of kissing a dental plate should mean the man is incapable of true love? My mother told me a story of when she was dating my father. They were playing that game of "if you love me you'll ... " and my mother came up with "if you love me you'll use my toothbrush" and he just couldn't do it. It was a point of squeamishness for him. They were together for 30 years, until death did them part. Some people may prefer you to remove the plate before deep kissing, others will prefer it to stay in at all times, and others still won't like deep kissing at all. All these people will be perfectly loving and lovable.

I have felt a denture plate when kissing someone.
Plastic feels different to gum..
Would it not be easier just to tell this man?
If his reaction is bad, it tells you more about him than it does about someone having a few false teeth.

Loulou21. .... does your hubby not feel it when you kiss?