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JenniferS2324 Mon 07-Sept-26 13:47:14

Hi All, towards the end of July I was invited to a surprise 80th Birthday. I found a lovely cup and saucer and a matching card, plus a lovely bag. I wrapped it up and left the bag where I was told to. Since then I have had no communication from the person concerned. If the cup and saucer were broken then I would like to know so that I could do something about it. I find it quite odd that I haven't had a thank you, or is it just me and people say thank you on the night and that is the last you hear about it.

Cossy Mon 07-Sept-26 14:24:13

Oh! That’s quite rude.

Could you not call the person and simply ask?

MissAdventure Mon 07-Sept-26 14:27:26

Id say thank you at the time and assume that was enough.

MawsRosie Mon 07-Sept-26 14:35:41

I wonder
1) how many people were at this 80th party?
2) How many thank you letters the recipient might be obliged to write?
3) Whether the name attached to the gift contained enough information for a thank you note?
If people say thank you in person that should suffice however much our mothers drummed into us the importance of Thank you letters.
I was recently invited to a 90th and the invitation stated clearly NO PRESENTS on the basis that by 90 (or indeed 80) we all have more than enough “stuff”as evidenced by all the decluttering threads here on GN!