Vascular dementia

Juniper1

Any one with husband/wife/partner with this diagnosis?
How do you cope in an average day with the repetitive questions, inability to recognise everyday objects, inability to perform any tasks, but restless desire to be doing something?
We Do Pilates, gym personal trainer, guitar sessions, meals out, walks, meeting people, but cannot fill the vacuum that personal activities like reading, watching tv, doing projects,gardening once filled

So sorry to hear you are going through this with your husband juniper1
My dad had mixed dementia. We were lucky he never repeated much only to ask where mum was when she went out on a long awaited break (technically she was house bound too, not by choice).
Will he not sit & watch tv?
I sat my dad in front of the tv & he would watch re- runs of the football, or music on YouTube.
You sound like you do such a lot, still.
Has he only just been diagnosed?

My MiL has advanced Vascular Dementia. In the early days we attended some support groups/meeting held by the Dementia Society.

We simply followed her mantra of agreeing with anything she said and did, s long as her and other people’s safety wasn’t compromised.

She wanted to talk a lot about her childhood, we gathered as many photos as we could and put them into an album. Almost every day she’d want to through them.

At the advice of the memory clinic we bought children’s card games, like happy families and snap and also large children’s flash cards, to remind her of what things are, grouped into things like animals, furniture etc.

We made sure that every day possible she went out in the fresh air, to local parks and discussed all that could be seen.

It’s hard, repetitive, frustrating and even boring.

Try and find a club for him and sort out respite for the future.

Good luck

Some people like children’s crafting things too.

He gets bored with TV, cricket, football things he liked. Can’t follow the action anymore.
Diagnosed over 2 years ago , but beginning to become harder to manage.

I suggest you contact AgeUk and ask their advice and get them to signpost you to anything in your area that might be of support. Similarly Admial Nurses whose number is on Dementia Uk's website.

And, look at the Alzheimer's Society website. They can help with lots of things - their website has loads of information on ut. There is also a forum. Despite their name, they deal with all types of dementia.

There is also a website called Relish with lots of resources for people with dementia

Juniper1 it sounds as if your husband is physically fit despite his dementia. Have you considered a support worker to take him to do some activities. This would be a benefit to you both, providing some respite for you as well as physical activity for him. It is important that you have some time to yourself to recharge your batteries. I don’t know where you are but in Scotland contacting your social work department should help you to identify services appropriate for him and you. Alzheimer Scotland or a local alternative should also be able to offer help. It’s also worth mentioning that there are benefits available to support you in paying for services.