Ah dear - why does getting older equate to diminished brain power?

I’m so sorry the compression garment has brought you down so much, but can understand.
The late Queen Mother’s legs were ulcerated and bandaged, but of course she had taken to drink years before so I’m not suggesting that for you😁

My left hand is very painful with arthritis at the moment and one thing can make life a drag. I’m glad it’s not my right as I draw and paint, but who knows what lies ahead?
Ageing is not for cissies as they say and I hope things improve for you.💐

It is very annoying to be treated like a child. A few years ago I was admitted to hospital as an emergency with a perforated appendix. One of the young doctors asked me what I used to do and when I told him I had been a judge there was a marked change in how I was treated. It shouldn’t have made any difference though.
Sadly it didn’t continue when I was put on a ward.

Yes, I too would be aggravated by some younger people’s assumptions and manner of address. Doesn’t matter what you say to them the response is invariably, “Aww.bless”. It reveals their own poverty of intellect that they have nothing intelligent to say in reply.
I’m very sorry about your leg. The compression stocking must be a real bind. Please forgive the pun! As for getting out and about, have you investigated the use of a mobility scooter? There are many different types and you can purchase online. I wouldn’t be without one now!

I'm shocked that we have people walking around whose wounds cannot be healed; 1 didn't know that. Is there any way, FERRY 23, that you could find more research on this topic, or seek out a top specialist?
How is it that trillions are spent on sending astronauts in to space, when there seems to be no viable research that would be an effective cure for you?
I'm with you. I too really hate being patronised.

Auntie E: What a hoot!!! I was in hospital in May and had to tell the consultant that it was my body that was disintegrating and not my brain!! Afterwards, the staff nurse came over and congratulated me!!

sandelf

I do understand but at least they are offering some sort of help/advice. We (DH and I) have recently come into the orbit of 'Crisis Support' - no previous experience of this area (HD suddenly and very seriously ill). Met many knowledgeable and helpful MH workers - yes some very young, heavily tattooed, etc etc. Everyone has been expert - as well as kind and patient. I think they are a bit surprised that we really appreciate all they are doing and try to use their advice and help. So I hope something useful comes of your contact and 3 cheers for those who try to help, even when they are from a different age and area.

Yes yes and yes

I agree an older advisor is usually better, but I've met some exceptional young people in that or similar roles.

A good advisor is an empathetic listener, is able to gauge whether you need endless suggestions or more like personal support for a period of time.

Ye gods was I fed up with a worker who endlessly suggested this or that despite knowing I was quite capable of following leads up and if they would work for me.

I demanded a change and got one but explained why, as some people genuinely needed her direct advice and specifics. Her over anxiety at wanting to make "everything all-right" in a hurry.

Some grasp that you cannot equate being articulate with being well: others miss that point entirely.

all the best with some of these suggestions above x

I certainly know where you are coming from!

I live in an area where anyone over retirement age who is trying to make new friends , as I am, can only find well-meaning activities for the 70+ age group that assumes we have the mental acuity of a child of three, have spent all our
school-days staring out the window, and all our working lives doing some mindless task that called for severely limited motor skills.

We are likewise supposed to be uninterested in attending church, going to concerts or the theatre or to various talks and lectures, as we can go to them all right, but we cannot get home again, as there is no public transport after 9 p. m. on weekdays, or before 10 a,m, on Sundays at Christmas or Easter.

Now what makes the municipal planners believe that a section of the general public that they deem to be mentally at the same stage as a not particularly intelligent nursery school child, is still able to drive a car?

I wonder if all the lovely ladies on here, with a leg wound, may have considered that they have a reaction or allergy to the medicine/cream they give you. I had the same, but mine cleared up, after I stopped the creams and dressings. I used plain antiseptic wipes, that I used every day, and sensitive skin dressings. A friend had good results from natural, not supermarket, honey on her wound. If you can find somebody with bee hives.

I understand where you are coming from.
Dreadful how we are treated as we age and have health issues. I hope your leg improves very soon and you can return to your life as you wish too. 💐💐

Sorry if I misunderstood you. I thought you were blaming Lucy for not treating you appropriately. Criticising may have been a better word.

I hope you get rid of the compression bandages soon.

winterwhite

Afraid I think it rather hard to blame Lucy.
You sound well able to identify activities for yourself.

Sorry, I don't understand your post.

Blaming her for what? And yes, if I wanted to, and if I could get out of the house, I could source activities. I never said I couldn't. I'm afraid you've lost me.

Afraid I think it rather hard to blame Lucy.
You sound well able to identify activities for yourself.

The books sound interesting, thanks I shall do some downloading. 😊

Thank you Lathyrus.

Being fed up about my knee and lack of walking I phoned up the number mentioned on the saga website about local exercise classes for knees and hips. The lady I spoke to was lovely. She told me her name, told me about her husbands successful knee operation and was generally cheerful, friendly and helpful. I still haven’t found a class I can go to and still can’t walk very well but the way she spoke to me made me feel so much better and I’ve been feeling happier ever since. I guess that, getting older is much the same as the way people talk differently to eg people in wheelchairs.

Sorry ferry. Hijacked your thread.

I meant to be complimentary about you😀

At the moment DH has a palliative care nurse on the phone and visiting. Sadly she sounds like my sis in law who I really don't like. So I have to grit my teeth. And she is one of the ones with the awww bless replies. I dont think DH hears it thank goodness.

Eleanor: A 200 mile walk in Search of England’s Lost Queen by Alice Loxton

Kindle Unlimited but published by MacMillan

I love the combination of history and present day.

I’d never heard of Eleanor’s chimney and just looked it up briefly.

I doubt I’ll ever make it that far from here now, but how interesting 😀👏

Lathyrus3 What is the title please?

Sorry Ferry23 to go a bit off piste for a moment.

DH has had endless hospital visits and now home visits. Mostly they are very young medics. Once or twice some Aww bless type comments. But so far not too bad. But I hear your annoyance. I would be as well.

That’s a different Eleanor and one I admire very much.

She was well into her 70s when Richard the Lionheart delegated responsibilities to her while he pursued his crusades. What a lady!

fancythat

^But, to be fair, this lass was trying her best to be of help^

Agreed.

I dont know how these things work.
I dont understand why you cant/havent come up with our own ideas?
[I could well be missing the point].

I take your point though about age.
I watched a programme yesterday that featured a 77 year old.
She was called old regularly.
I hope I am not thought of as that when I get to her age.
But maybe I would be glad when I get there?

Yes, I think you have missed the point. I'm perfectly capable of sourcing activities outside of the house. First I can't get out of the house. Secondly, whilst my GP acted in what she believed were my best interests, I'm not sure I needed a Social Prescriber to suggest I could pay someone to take me to the seaside for an ice cream.

I have done some activities online, thanks to those who have given me some suggestions.

I am really grateful for having such a proactive nurse and a lovely GP. Not being able to get out and feeling a bit isolated is frustrating, but hopefully temporary and something I can work to rectify when I'm able to get out. But that's really secondary to having to wear these awfully uncomfortable and hot layers of compression bandages, which will be replaced with equally uncomfortable compression garments of some type - for ever. That's what's making me despondent and I think when your mood is low, anything else that might not normally be a major issue is amplified in your own mind.

My point was that I was being treated like a bit of a dim witted and helpless old woman.

Lathyrus3

Yes well, you’re almost certainly in the too 5% of the country’s try intelligence wise, so I expect she doesn’t come across many like you😬

I’m a bit confined in activity these days so I quite like to research things I know very little about.

In Kindle unlimited yesterday there was a book where the author has walked the route taken by the coffin of Eleanor of Castile - wife of Edward 1- . It’s historical but also about the authors experiences at each stopping place and the crosses erected there.

I’m really enjoying it so far and getting to Geddington or Charing Cross to see one is a little target I’ve set myself.

I know it doesn’t solve the social problem 🙂

Eleanor of Aquitaine lived in a castle near here and there is a landmark known as Eleanor's Chimney.

Oh Ferry, how I feel for you. I have a wound on my leg and have to wear a compression stocking and I hate it, it is hard to get on, hard to get off and not nice to wear in hot weather. Fortunately I have such a lovely wound nurse we are great friends now! She certainly doesn’t patronise me.

However, you did make me laugh. I, and probably many of us, are treated as infants and it is really annoying. I applied for exemption to the hose pipe ban after the useful information given on this site. The sweetly sickly voice and ‘there there ‘ attitude really got to me. When asked if I had a stair lift my response was to tell her no, I crawled up on my hands and knees. She did not know what to say! Never the less, I was given exemption.

I do understand but at least they are offering some sort of help/advice. We (DH and I) have recently come into the orbit of 'Crisis Support' - no previous experience of this area (HD suddenly and very seriously ill). Met many knowledgeable and helpful MH workers - yes some very young, heavily tattooed, etc etc. Everyone has been expert - as well as kind and patient. I think they are a bit surprised that we really appreciate all they are doing and try to use their advice and help. So I hope something useful comes of your contact and 3 cheers for those who try to help, even when they are from a different age and area.