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Does anyone have a middle name?

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polomint Sat 18-Jul-26 14:52:52

My grandaughter is going to have a baby soon and I presume he/ she will have a middle name. I hope so. It is one of my regrets that my husband did not want his daughter's to have a middle name as he thought it was only for " posh" people. I have a middle name and I am not posh I told him . I did however make sure our son had a middle name but I still regret our daughters didn't

paddyann54 Sun 19-Jul-26 01:10:12

It’s a Presbyterian thingGrammaretto Babies baptised in the Catholic Church had to have saints names so surnames wouldn,t qualify.
I,m godmother to a mid fifties niece ,she was baptised after the mass ended not during it,possibly because her father was Presbyterian,but her parents wanted to give her his mothers maiden name and the priest refused so she has just her first name although on her birth certificate it has her granny,s surname.If they had got her baptised within the week as was normal they would likely have given her granny,s first name to go on the birth certificate instead

nanna8 Sun 19-Jul-26 00:24:31

My children all have one and so do we. I thought it was normal. More unusual not to have one.

Shelflife Sun 19-Jul-26 00:12:26

I have a middle name- happy about that.
Our children each have two middle names as do our GC. Definitely not posh!

Redrobin51 Sat 18-Jul-26 23:52:11

Mom chose my first name and Dad my middle which was the female version of his.

Grammaretto Sat 18-Jul-26 23:24:32

I have a middle name and all 4 DC have and 7 DGC have middle names.
DH was always known by his middle name which was occasionally a nuisance when officialdom addressed him by his first name.
Being called at the doctor's for example. He wouldn't respond!
My Scottish DiL has her mother's maiden name as her middle name which I believe is a Scots tradition.

Saturn Sat 18-Jul-26 22:40:02

I have 2 middle names & a confirmation name. One of my middle names is my mum's & granny's first name & also my daughter's middle name.

twiglet77 Sat 18-Jul-26 22:39:51

I’m not sure I can think of anyone whom I know to have only one Christian name. Certainly everyone in every generation of both sides of my and my ex-husband’s families all have one, two or three “middle” names, going back as far as anyone has researched the family trees.

Mollygo Sat 18-Jul-26 22:39:45

I have a middle name- it was useful when we played that playground game “letters in your name.”
My children both have middle names in case they didn’t like their first names.

mamaa Sat 18-Jul-26 21:45:32

My middle name is after the midwife who delivered my older brother! He was born at home in the early 1950’s and Mum promised her midwife if she ever had a baby daughter she’d name the baby after her.
That midwife didn’t deliver me, think she’d retired by the time I came along, but Mum had kept in touch with her and kept her promise.
I’ve no idea who delivered me-( another home birth) and no more children came along to be named after her, whatever her name was- I was never told!

Deedaa Sat 18-Jul-26 21:28:21

I have a middle name. My husband had two middle names, one of them wasa family name. We gave the same name to our children, along with a second middle name, and the same has been done for the grandchildren.

MiniMoon Sat 18-Jul-26 21:23:59

I have a middle name. It is the name my parents chose and would have been my only name, but for the death of my grandfather's sister. He asked my father if he would name me after her which he did. I don't really like either of them.

Esmay Sat 18-Jul-26 20:56:27

Traditionally,we have several names in our family-some rather unusual .
It's always been like that to honour various Aunts and Uncles .
One of my friends said that our daughters sound like the cast of Little Women .

Ladyleftfieldlover Sat 18-Jul-26 20:32:16

I was the first grandchild on dad’s side and they took ages choosing my name. They only chose one and it’s French. My brother and sister have family names for their middle names. OH wasn’t given a middle name so our children have three Christian names each. Our granddaughter also has three.

Smileless2012 Sat 18-Jul-26 20:25:06

I was named after my mum and maternal GM (first name) and my middle name was my paternal GM's. It was then decided that me, mum and gran all having the same first name would be confusing, so I've always been known by my middle name.

Bellanonna Sat 18-Jul-26 20:24:53

Both my children have middle names as indeed have their own children. I didn’t have one, just a confirmation name, which is not legal, so never used.

Calendargirl Sat 18-Jul-26 20:20:12

I don’t have a middle name. Neither does DH.

Always wanted one.

Made sure both my children had middle names.

BoggledMind Sat 18-Jul-26 20:07:34

My brothers and I have middle names. As the first born (by half an hour) I got my father's first name as my second. Family tradition on his side, so his middle name was his father's first and so one. I'm not sure how it would have worked if the first born was a girl. Female variants perhaps.

paddyann54 Sat 18-Jul-26 19:54:37

I have Irish ancestry and middle names have been around for ever as far as I know but they are often used daily,think Mary Ann,Margaret Mary ,MAry Therese .A.so children wet named for the generation before.My granny had brothers called Charles William and Thomas,that’s what they called my uncles .It does make finding folk on the registers quite difficult as a lot of Irish surnames are equally common .

Grandma70s Sat 18-Jul-26 19:36:02

Perhaps the idea that it was ‘posh’ to have middle names - not an idea I’m familiar with - came from the fact that royals often had strings of names. The King, for example, is called Charles Philip Arthur George, and Princess Anne is Anne Elizabeth Alice Louise. I know, because when they were born I remember making their names with my wooden letters. I was eight when Charles was born.

Not sure about Prince William’s generation, but I notice his children only have three names each, same as my grandchildren.

paddyann54 Sat 18-Jul-26 19:29:52

I have my mother’s name as my middle name,I,m the only one of 4 daughters who has one.
My children both have middle names although my son was known by a shortened version of his name years before he was born.He has both Maternal GF names but called by his dads grandfathers name.
I promised her he would be called that as she always said she was sad she never had a son to give his name to.
Sadly she didn,t live to see him but his name was on his wristband before he reached SCBU.Itsuits him well even though folk used to say it was old fashioned.

BlueBelle Sat 18-Jul-26 19:29:44

I have a middle name, my children have middle names, all my 7 grandkids have middle names, and most of my ancestors had middle names I thought most people had them
(no one’s posh in my family)

madeleine45 Sat 18-Jul-26 19:23:36

My son has an unusual middle name, which he does not use in general , and strangers would be very unlikely to even guess it. He travels a lot , lives on his phone of course, but we have a good use for it. If I ever get a text purporting to be from him, saying he has lost his phone or any other of the scamming things, lost his wallet etc etc, I simply reply "whats your name?" and if it is him he knows to put the unusual name. As the texts appear to be plausible, given his travelling, it is a useful check. Within our family we also have an unusual name that came from a grandparents family, and we also use that in the same way. It is not on any passports or documents , and we are careful to keep it to ourselves.

I actually have two middle names and my sister and brother have one each. Handy for using initials on letters etc. Despite whatever care you take naming a child, over the years things change. My brother was christened Terry as my parents liked a simple name, definitely not Terrence, and thought there was nothing it was likely to be shortened to. Wrong! He was called Tez, Tez Ray , Top Cat by friends .

Apart from family names you seem to find names come and go in fashion , but I wonder if any of you have a sense of colour that belongs to specific names? For many years I did not like the name Maureen and a dark purple colour was somehow connected to the name. Then when I lived in Portugal I met another lady called Maureen , who has been a lifelong friend and whilst I still seem to see a colour it is more a pale pleasant violet colour.

The only thing I tend to mention , even these days, is to think twice about giving girls a second name beginning with a vowel, as if in later years they choose to marry or change their surname you can end up with some unfortunate initial combinations, as a friend , who became Shelagh Olive Downes found!

One good thing about second names, is that it helps if trying to look up a family tree , especially if you have a common surname.

Grandma70s Sat 18-Jul-26 19:19:48

Many of my female relations and contemporaries (I’m in my mid-eighties) have Ann as a middle name. It fits neatly into a longer name. My best friend, though, is called just Anne (with an e), no middle name. That seems a bit blunt. I must ask her if she minds.

nexus63 Sat 18-Jul-26 19:13:53

i have my grannys name and my dads surname before he was adopted within the family (he was adopted by my gran who was his fathers sister). my son has a middle name and his son also has a middle name.

harrigran Sat 18-Jul-26 19:06:17

My middle name is the female equivalent of my late DH's, I was named after my mother's sister.