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Cossy Sat 18-Jul-26 12:19:07

Patsy70

Cossy was it ‘harangue’? I have seen this kind of response at times and it really isn’t necessary when someone is seeking advice or some sympathy.

Yes! Thank you so much!

Sarnia Sat 18-Jul-26 12:13:41

There are definitely some who feel they have superior knowledge in subjects like politics and woe betide if a word or name is spelt incorrectly.
Everyone's opinion matters even if it is poles apart from what someone else believes but there are those who don't hold back with unkind words. Shame really.

MissAdventure Sat 18-Jul-26 11:56:59

I think knowing who these people are, helps.
Usually the same few, in different guises, different sexes, with different stories... but the same spelling mistakes. smile

JamesandJon33 Sat 18-Jul-26 11:55:01

Yes Sago I agree. Only post on games etc now. All the rest is cliquey and horrid.

Galaxy Sat 18-Jul-26 11:35:05

I am always slightly in awe of how those on the estrangement thread navigate those who pop on and are vile. It isn't as if it is a one off occurrence, they appear to have been dealing with it fir years.

HelterSkelter1 Sat 18-Jul-26 11:34:53

Yes the best idea is to ignore any post that is unpleasant. Don't comment. Just ignore. As if it were not there. Don't give the person any credence. Don't encourage by commenting.

There are horrid people in life and horrid posters on social media.

MissAdventure Sat 18-Jul-26 11:31:37

I think it was worse.
At least, now, people just post around someone who is being unpleasant.
Long may it continue!

AGAA4 Sat 18-Jul-26 11:28:17

It does seem to happen too often that someone asking for support ends up being more upset by some harsh posts. Was it always like this? I don't remember it being so bad years ago.

Wyllow3 Sat 18-Jul-26 11:22:02

Right when I had just started, it was on a Farage thread 2023 and being new I was cautious in what I said,

and the reply came as

"Get a life"

That was so hard and horrible at the time.

Magenta8 Sat 18-Jul-26 11:20:50

I agree that there is a lot of carping going on but I don't think it is anything new.

kittylester Sat 18-Jul-26 11:20:10

Good post, Sago

Patsy70 Sat 18-Jul-26 11:17:08

Cossy was it ‘harangue’? I have seen this kind of response at times and it really isn’t necessary when someone is seeking advice or some sympathy.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 18-Jul-26 11:11:26

I put it down to the heat

A while back I decided not to respond to any rudeness, life is too short to let an anonymous keyboard player get to me.

Cossy Sat 18-Jul-26 11:05:31

Sorry * I don’t know which word I meant to use but it wasn’t arrange grin

Cossy Sat 18-Jul-26 11:03:53

I agree Sago and I’ve brought this u previously.

We are all entitled to our owns views/beliefs/opinions, and to express them.

But we are not entitled to bully people, arrange them, insult them or be personally rude to them or about them.

Frankly, I see this all to often on here and it’s not limited to our very passionate N&P site!

Well said Sago

I wish you all a good and peaceful weekend flowers

Smileless2012 Sat 18-Jul-26 10:58:54

It isn't restricted to the News & Politics forum.

We see it on threads where people are looking for support and advice when going through upsetting and difficult personal situations.

It's never acceptable, but even worse when someone's posting for the first time and doesn't come back because of the unnecessarily unpleasant responses they receive.

A good OP Sago but those responsible for this type of online behaviour are unlikely to change sad.

HelterSkelter1 Sat 18-Jul-26 10:48:32

Havent noticed anything bullying etc. But I dont bother with the News and Politics forums.

But I have noticed a lot of forgetting that this site is open to millions not a cosy closed site. GC photos in one post and identifying comments in another. Be aware. Easy to be lulled into forgetting.

JaneJudge Sat 18-Jul-26 10:41:41

Kandinsky

Haven’t noticed anything either - but I’m only on here a few days a week and evenings I work for the mafia.

grin

I only ever think of you as a Russian Painter and now I fancy a swirly cinnamon roll

Kandinsky Sat 18-Jul-26 10:40:03

Haven’t noticed anything either - but I’m only on here a few days a week and evenings I work for the mafia.

JaneJudge Sat 18-Jul-26 10:36:36

I'm sorry this is happening Sago. I'm a space cadet so I haven't really noticed anything but I agree it should be for support.

Sago Sat 18-Jul-26 10:29:37

The above is what it should be.

However lately it’s become more like a witches coven.

We should be mature enough to respect each other’s points of view, kind enough to listen and support and above all to be respectful and polite.

I don’t know what’s happened recently but the playground bullies are having a field day.

I was once bullied on this forum for some grammatical errors, I was in such a dark place I didn’t fight back.

I will now fight back for myself and others.

Please remember you do not know what posters are dealing with in RL, this forum could be a lifeline for someone.