SM Addiction

Stansgran

DH turns his radio Times5 on first thing every day.. He reads the times on line while waiting for his bath to run. In the living room the tv goes on. News all day. Tv all evening even while we eat in another room .i only catch up with emails from friends and family and what’s app and then settle down with a book on kindle. I don’t watch tv as I long ago gave up hoping for my choice. The moment DH is seeing me on kindle he complains I’m forever on my screen. As he’s got older he wants all my attention I think even if it’s watching what he wants. I’m trying to laugh about it. I read rubbish nothing worthy. Not sure why I’ve posted but won’t waste the typing.

Your DH sounds very selfish. I’d absolutely hate the tv on all day and expecting you to watch what he wants!
You need a tv of your own in another room and tell him what’s what.

An addiction, to my mind, is when something starts to negatively affect someone's life, and they are unable to enjoy other activities because of thinking about their addiction.
Saying that, i do thnk there is reason to keep social media use to a manageable level.

Gransnetters are more likely to be interested in M&S than S&M 😂

I think people get addicted to things that make them feel good. If it is harmful, stop.

Sago

How disappointing, I thought this was going to be about a S&M (slaves and masters) addiction!

A bit racy for Gransnet but you never know😳.

I thought the same and was a bit scared to open the post, thinking it must have been reported.🤣

My DH tells me off, but he is on first thing before I am up and sits watching TV reruns with his phone in his hand.

I am a daily user, especially for patterns

I just regard SM as another form of entertainment.I don’t read a book all day or do crosswords all day or watch tv all day when I have days off work and don’t use SM all day either.
I pop in and out of it sometimes just for ten mins at a time.

I don’t spend that long on Gransnet but I did spend too long on Facebook and X, so I have come off those. It would probably be best to set a limit for the time I spend on Gransnet though. I hadn’t been reading books as much and I have noticed my attention span is shorter.

you lot are dreadful

Ah .... social media!
I really wondered what this thread might be about!!

I think it can easily become a habit. You get drawn into a subject or a thread, and before you realise it, it’s taken over your day or evening. At that point, if it’s stopping you from doing the things you’d normally do, there’s probably some level of dependence involved.

But is that always a bad thing? If you’re relying on it because you’re isolated, or feeling low, and you find understanding and comfort in the support here, then it’s not the worst thing to lean on. There are far more harmful addictions to have

Oops - blocked during and blocked.

My AC have blocks on children's phones. Blicked dyribg school hours and blicked at a time in tge evening abd it is evening, not late nuggt. Tge GC are 15 and 14 and blocks have been in place for years. Occasionally I gave heard an extra 15 mins being requested now and then s they are playing a game or talking with friends. Many parents don't want to block a childs phone theur reasoning being they want to be able to contact them in an emergency eg going to be late collecting from school. Obviously schools have no means of being contactable these days!

It is possible to get addicted to anything.
Social media is certainly not exempt.

I am not addicted to it.

I think sometimes it takes a certain sort of personality.
Or situation.

Another member of the 'dirty mind' brigade here too!

Marmin

It was only half way through when I realised that SM was not an initialism for a range of 'private practices'!

Glad it’s not just me 😂

Am I the only person who read the first post as a reference to sado-masochism instead of social media?

petra

WhiteWave
At least you’ve been honest. It makes a change from the posts where older people would like us to believe it’s only young people who have this problem it’s not, it’s across all ages.
If we were all honest we most of us would have been the same.
I know I would.

Yes Petra! All those cold winter days in the park ..."just five more minutes". There were already mobiles but SMs were still 10 years away. Would I have been scrolling while waiting for them on the swings or in the sandpit? Probably. We'll never know and I'm not going to presume. We all know interaction with our children is essential but so is our own sense of self.

No I’m not addicted. I can ( & do ) go days without looking at GN or any other SM.
This wasn’t always the case though. I probably was addicted when I 1st started out ( 15/ 20 years ago ) but I put that down to a very difficult period in my life when I was basically lost & lonely. Social media at that time was an escape.
But I haven’t been ‘addicted’ for years.
It’s a lot more healthy now as I just enjoy it for what it is, a pleasant pastime that I can easily take or leave.

Watermeadow that’s how I was reading it yes I also thought it was going to be about sado machoschism

watermeadow

I’ve lived a very sheltered life but assumed this meant sado- machoschism ( not even sure how to spell it!)

Just seen your post.

What dirty minds we have.

How disappointing, I thought this was going to be about a S&M (slaves and masters) addiction!

A bit racy for Gransnet but you never know😳.

I’ve lived a very sheltered life but assumed this meant sado- machoschism ( not even sure how to spell it!)

I look at GN whilst eating my breakfast, and I’m looking again having just had a round of bread and butter for lunch.

In the past, I would have looked at a book or newspaper when doing those things, I love reading whilst eating if on my own.

I still read plenty. I am on Book 40 of the GN Book Forum for this year, so get through quite a few.

I certainly aren’t always on SM apart from GN, have no interest in whats apping or texting others all the time.

I’m sure I spend too much time online. Not on GN so much but I do have a couple of groups of close friends with whom I exchange messages most days. I look at stupid reels on FB that is just time wasting when I could be reading a book.

None of my GC seem too addicted to SM. The 11yo has just got his first phone, a dumb Nokia. He hasn’t used it for anything except to message his mum/dad if he’s going to be late home from school. I don’t envy today’s parents, having to be so vigilant about what their children are exposed to.