What do you find yourself avoiding more as you get older?

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That's your day ruined then, Witzend 😂🤣. Actually, hopefully, you'll be fine when you get there, making small talk with people and catching up on family news (even though you may not be that interested!!)

I find social occasions a real drain, I like to talk, but not at length, that's why I like the brief exchanges on here. I don't have to get dressed up, wonder if I'll need the loo, worry about feeling anxious 🙄.

Your husband sounds very kind and generous to pick up the bill for everyone.

You can relax in your armchair when you get home, take your shoes off, have a cup of tea, and reflect on all that was said/not said.

There's no place like home 🏡.

Must say I find myself getting a bit like my elderly mother, who now and then when I was on a ‘sleepover’, used to say early in the morning, with a ‘phew’ sort of sigh, ‘Thank goodness, I don’t have to go anywhere or do anything today!’

That came to mind earlier, when I remembered that we’re due to meet some extended-family relations of dh (in the U.K. briefly) for lunch today. It’s not that I don’t like them, more that I just CBA…
And I know dh will insist on paying for everybody - he invariably does. I’m very glad he’s not a tight-arse, but it’d be nice now and then if someone else did at least offer to split it.

Everything Marmite said plus people

I find as I get older I'm less inclined to listen to any negative 'inner voice' thoughts, I either dismiss or challenge them and am becoming quite my own champion!
At last

Nothing that I haven’t always avoided. Or at least only those things that have changed, so they’re no longer enjoyable. I still like people, parties, going out, travelling, but long journeys aren’t fun if the trains/buses aren’t as frequent and reliable as they were. It’s them that have changed, not me!

All yours Marmite and I'll add my own personal bete noir.....Christmas.

Having high expectations.

Definately people.
Complicated travel arrangements
Driving long distances
Going out in the evenings for meals
Feeling cold
Night driving
Feeling rushed

People. I like being alone. no drama, no arguments, just peace

People

I don't find myself avoiding things as I get older but I have no tolerance anymore for bad behaviour from anyone from teenage years and upwards . I do confront people's bad behaviour. Been told I shouldn't incase I get attacked but I would attack back . I have a hefty walking stick and don't boxing in my sit fit class.

I find I am joining things I never thought I would like last week joined a contemporary choir. I am not at good singer but it was for all abilities and turns out I am an Alto. Plus do as many new things when I go on holiday which I go by myself via train with travel assistance.

As I get older I want to try more things . I suppose being widowed at 45 and then having people dependant on me until 2017. I am making up for all the things I missed out on . Can't do somethings I want due to disability but since moving in 2019 doing things I never thought I would . Life is to short for if onlies or what if's.

Weddings. Especially if only invited to the evening bit
Going out for dinner. I much prefer lunch. So does my digestive system.
Fried food
Late nights & early mornings. I’m no longer an owl or a lark
Clothes shopping.
Sewing. I get someone else to do it unless it involves a button.
Public swimming pools.
People who talk over you. It’s sooo rude.
Car parks with (useless) apps.
Old friends who say they’ll stay in touch but never do but are over the moon when I contact them. Enough!
Hills & long staircases

Driving after the sun goes to bed.

Eating fruit ( I've just gone off it)
Draughts & sitting in the cold.
Dressing up (smart, not fancy dress).
I'm not such Good Citizen eg if I see a stranger struggling with something, or a hazard in the road, I'm likely to leave it to another Good Samaritan to deal with these days.

Yes people especially those who want to give me a complete rundown of their doctors,hospital appointments and illnesses and symptoms

People who don’t bring any joy to a situation.
Cold weather - give me 80° every day
Equipment at the gym - I do a lot of classes but find the rest pretty boring (unless I’m reading my kindle on a treadmill).
Not an avoidance really but my tolerance levels have plummeted and instead of being a people pleaser I’m very happy to show some belligerence now and then 😁

Parties although I haven't been to one for years. Flying. Driving. Don't do either any more.

Going out at night.
Late nights..
Holidays.
Parties.

I am intolerant of mean people these days the ones who are just miserly but have money. I spend mine and enjoy doing lots of different activities. I don’t get the retirees who won’t have a coffee out, or treat themselves. HMRC and their offspring will enjoy spending it after they have gone, more years behind us than in front of us. At 64 I know that if I am still here in my 80s I won’t won’t/ be able to do as much as I do now.

Worrying about things outside my control, feeling obliged to have an opinion on complex matters when full facts are unknown and information sources are all biased. I tend to see both sides of an argument and think that no one single answer suits the problem.
Oh, and idiots!

Confrontation, both in person and with strangers on the internet.

Anywhere where there are no toilets.
Having to stay away from home.
Funeral adverts.
People who tell me they are going to vote Reform.

The news.
I look at the headlines on my iPad but don’t listen to the never-ending news reports on Radio 4. It’s like school history lessons - wars and politics, wars and politics.
I haven’t many years left and am not wasting time on anything nasty if I can avoid it.