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I’d put his tree in a small room and have your bigger tree in the main living area. Just to fit. We used to have 3 trees when I could be bothered, large, medium and small in different parts of the house.

Bailieys only £10 in tesco

JuBut just read the thread.

Bollocks to that!!! Put your Christmas tree up with your beautiful decorations and ignore what your husband says. It's your home as well as his. I wouldn't speak to him if he was my husband!!!

'Twiggy'! Excellent name.

My dear Dad treated Mum to a real Christmas tree. She was what , nowadays, might be called a ‘ tree hugger’. I have an abiding memory of her sitting , cross- legged, in front of the tree… crying ( and she hardly ever cried.) We never had another real tree and the following year dear OLD Twiggy was reinstated and remained our tree for decades after. Happy days!

We have two trees, my tasteful one and the tacky one DH puts up in the conservatory at the request of my adult children. I waited until he was out of the way yesterday and re-arranged the tasteful one. He had decided that we did not need the beautiful baubles I had bought. Wrong move!

I could have wept when I came home today, there was not a room, both upstaits and downstairs, which wasn't in chaos. It didn't help that I am feeling unwell and have no energy to help clear up.

I know I am an ungrateful wretch, he is only trying to help.

Bilboben if someone you love (with all your heart) were to die tomorrow I honestly don't think a tree would even enter into your thoughts!

NfkDumpling - your bedsit tree will be perfect anyway though !

My "student" baubles are perfect too.
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If he has one put his in the shed.if not put yours in the usual place and consign his to darkest hidden corner. Alternatively you put it outside for the birds. Oh by the way don't anchor it down. With a bit of luck it will be blown away. If not I think the ''subtle'' hint should sink in for future years.of course some strings of peanuts and lard will be received gratefully by them of course do firstly take a picture of said apology of a tree, so that you can show friends, and be able to bring it out every year!!

Sooo many negatives~~ Sighhh.....

In his mind he probably thought it's a lovely surprise to help you out... [maybe you had quietly moaned at some point about having to get the tree and decorations out?] I doubt he did it to spite you.

I think take the little tree in good humour .... and maybe also laugh and put up the usual tree too. Be happy!!

Merry Christmas~~

If he died tomorrow how would you feel about it?

This.

Aveline, Baileys is down to £10ltr in many supermarkets at the moment. 😋
The annual Baileys war!
You know you deserve it!

Can you return it to the shop.
I would say "I'm really sorry but it's just not glorious enough for me"

I know my husband would happily take it back.

If it can't go back I'd put it in the hall/landing/kitchen probably.

He, however, is more likely to buy something way too big!

If he died tomorrow how would you feel about it?

Unless you live in a very small one room flat, the obvious solution is to put up both trees as already suggested.

I would also have torn a strip off my husband for making any decision whatsoever without asking my opinion beforehand, unless he was buying me a surprise present!

Well, not any decision. I was perfectly happy when he asked if his son could move in for a while, as the young man had "forgotten to pay his rent" and been evicted, and when DH came home and asked if I was agreeable to giving a home to two cats in dire need of a loving home, I likewise agreed - but he DID ask first. Although, in neither case would I have said no.

I agree with witzend

My DH got our 6ft plus tree down from the attic as he has done for the last 20+ years only for me to tell him I don’t think I can decorate it this year. I really can’t go climbing up the step ladder leaning over to put the decorations on due to problems with my back and legs. So we have bought a smaller one which won’t fit all our decorations on- collected over 50 years together and some of my mums really old ones. He suggested we alternate them yearly but I can’t do that! I’m sure it will look lovely once it’s done.

Ooh Bailey's. That tree only cost £15 so only a little bottle. Och.

You did exactly the right thing Aveline. You sat back and let him put it up, he then could see his mistake for himself, all resolved without discord.
Have a lovely time decorating the bigger and more lovely tree.
Spend the refund on a bottle of Baileys.

pop it outside with some bird bits on to cheer them up i suppose he tried usually with men thats the best you can say!

Put it on the landing ?

A happy resolution! Merry Christmas to you both! 😁

Easy for you to say! It's all packed away now.

What a fuss about nothing.