Would you allow a neighbour to use your shower?

Yes, I'd do it absolutely!
I have had extended family use mine and I have used my next-door neighbour's shower (when the spare part for ours was going to be 5 working days and the bath was "out").

Showering in a swimming pool in your swimsuit is not at all the same.

I'd want a time-slot though (5-6pm or 8 -9 am or whatever).
It feels awkward using a neighbour's shower - better if it's not their only bathroom!

It’s an interesting one and the answers may depend on whether or not you have more than one bathroom.
I have a lovely neighbour who I would allow to use a bathroom in our home.
I do however have a neighbour who I would certainly not want to use our facilities.

Of course I would give my neighbour the use of my shower. That’s the neighbourly thing to do isn’t it? I’ve no fear, they would do the same for me.

When we first moved into our house over 40 yrs ago, we had no hot water for weeks and no bath for months.
My DM who lived with us, used to catch a bus into Edinburgh once a week to have a proper bath at the Infirmary Street baths, for a small fee soap and towels provided.

We met a family, through our church, who offered us all baths once or twice during those dirty months. They also fed us. At that time our 3 DS were starting at a new school.
We probably stank!
How excited we were when our bath was at last installed.
We didn't have a shower for another 20 years.
Recently I was able to house a family of 3 for 3 weeks while their house has been out of action due to flooding.
I now have a guest room with ensuite and mini kitchen so it's no hardship.
How times and standards have changed.

I would not! don't know what I would say so hope Im never asked

I would and I have let my neighbour use my shower - no big deal !

Fleurpepper

FriedGreenTomatoes2

Here, in Málaga we did just that for a week during summer a couple of years back when our neighbours along the landing were having their bathroom refurbished. In fact, such a lovely Spanish couple, we gave his wife a spare key so they wouldn’t feel embarrassed - and we used to knock on and say “we’re off for the day, not back before 4pm, so come over whenever it suits you best”.

Ah thanks, got it now! Been wondering for a while.

What have you been wondering?
That I had a name change from Urmstongran?
It wasn’t a secret.
A glitch had me contacting GNHQ and they helped me set up.
A new name was my idea as with our family circumstances I felt too identifiable and Lily from HQ was so very kind facilitating my return.

We have 3 bathrooms , so it’s a yes from me . We have lovely neighbours except for a couple one side of us , who keep to themselves. In our road we feed cats , take in parcels and water plants and generally help each other . I’ve taken in washing when a neighbour’s machine broke and they’ve offered to do ours when it went on the blink .
I’m not sure id ask a neighbour if I could use their shower , I’d hope they would offer .

MissAdventure

Yes, as long as they left the bathroom clean.

I often get a knock at the door, and it's my next door neighbour needing a poo.

Her son refuses to get out of the bath once he's in there.

Now there I have to say I'd refuse - ie someone needing to use my bathroom because they weren't bringing their son up to be considerate. I'd expect them to remove the lock from their bathroom door until he started to behave himself (there are temporary lock things they could buy one of for themselves - in order to lock the son out when they were using the bathroom).

Yes, as long as they left the bathroom clean.

I often get a knock at the door, and it's my next door neighbour needing a poo.

Her son refuses to get out of the bath once he's in there.

FriedGreenTomatoes2

Here, in Málaga we did just that for a week during summer a couple of years back when our neighbours along the landing were having their bathroom refurbished. In fact, such a lovely Spanish couple, we gave his wife a spare key so they wouldn’t feel embarrassed - and we used to knock on and say “we’re off for the day, not back before 4pm, so come over whenever it suits you best”.

Ah thanks, got it now! Been wondering for a while.

It's a no from me.

I wouldn't ask to use anyone else's shower and I wouldn't want them to use mine

Llamedos13

Goodness biglouis, I would not want to be your neighbour. I hope you never need a helping hand from anyone in the future

Perhaps try reading a little more carefully as to how disrespectfully these people acted towards me on our first encounter!

NO! I have the neighbours from hell.

Llamedos13

Goodness biglouis, I would not want to be your neighbour. I hope you never need a helping hand from anyone in the future.

I'd have been distinctly put out in Big Louis' position - and the neighbour concerned would possibly (make that probably) have been given a verbal lesson on what manners she obviously hadn't bothered to learn......

Thinking about it more, I think it was actually rude of the 'friend'/ neighbour to ask outright in the first place. That kind of direct approach should be limited to very good friends or family.

She has put the person she asked in a position where she will feel uncomfortable now whichever response she gives.

At most, she should have waited to see if her neighbour offered the use of her shower after she had been told of the problem IMO.

Plus the woman in question might be one of those who has 40 minute showers - going by a recent thread on Mumsnet, there an awful lot of people for whom that (with water running continuously) is extremely common.
As a five mins max shower person myself, I couldn't bear it if the person using my shower turned out to do that - I would quickly have to find a way to make the water run cold on them 😈

We only have the one and it would mean having to keep the bathroom clean and sparkly. Not my favourite job.
As a child we only had a sink with a cold tap in the scullery (yes the toilet was in the garden) but managed to keep clean, boiling a kettle of water and washing at the sink. A weekly bath in a tin tub on the floor was about as far as a bath went.
With hot and cold running water on tap, a daily wash at the sink shouldn’t be too onerous. I don’t think I would ask a neighbour that favour but after all I have said, I would probably agree if asked. No use telling them about the good old days ….

Without a doubt I would.
It’s only a shower, not asking a lot.

Here, in Málaga we did just that for a week during summer a couple of years back when our neighbours along the landing were having their bathroom refurbished. In fact, such a lovely Spanish couple, we gave his wife a spare key so they wouldn’t feel embarrassed - and we used to knock on and say “we’re off for the day, not back before 4pm, so come over whenever it suits you best”.

Yes, of course. We are lucky to have lovely neighbours around us, not in and out of each others houses but always time for a quick chat in the front garden.
I would just go to the swimming pool more often if it happened to me though!

Nano14

I would let a neighbour use my shower. However, I would wonder why they couldn't just have a strip wash at the bathroom basin, as I would do in the same situation. I would find it inconvenient going to a neighbour's to use their shower.

Same here.

Luckily we have a downstairs shower room so yes, if it was one of our nice neighbours.

Not the neighbours I have. Definitely not.

@Doodledog

I wouldn't seek out a white anglo saxon protestant if I were in need of ablution facilities either

People have different standards of hygiene. This neighbour has repeatedly blocked the drains by disposing of cooking oil down the sink and then sending plumbers around to my house. Even after the LL paid for an expensive camera survey to make sure there was nothing wrong with my drains. The water company have had to jet out her drains almost every year. So I would not trust her to put only "appropriate" things down the loo.

I would allow a neighbour to have a shower but I would not dream of asking if the position were reversed. I would have a strip wash at the sink as I did when the bath was removed and a shower fitted many years ago.

I do not think anybody here would ask, like me they would do the best they could in their own homes.