Light up every room.

It's not offensive. U2BB is just having a grump. Which is allowed.

She may also be telling the absolute truth from her perspective.

Offence is taken, not given. I'm hot offended. My daughter died too young.

This is a horrible post.

This post is offensive and could be responsible for causing deep hurt to certain bereaved people.
When my son died, suddenly and tragically a few short years ago, people were so shocked and saddened that they mostly said that they didn't know what to say.
Later of course, the letters and cards came. Whatever was written in them was meant sincerely by those who knew our son. The words of condolence were received with gratitude.
No one is perfect, we all recognise that, but when we lose someone so dear to us we remember the best of their personality.
Our son lit up our lives. I know that because when he died a light went out.
My kindest thoughts to all who are sad because they have lost someone dear to them.

Oh what miserable horrors some of you are. If a person dies young, why not say something nice, it's also nice for the bereaved to hear this.

It's not just about someone young who has died, they lit up the room applies to anyone we have loved and lost if we feel it appropriate to express our feelings in that way. I can truly say I have known more than one person like this in my life and am the better for it.

Babs03

Oh c’mon, if people can’t be nice when a young person has died it reflects much more badly on us than anyone else. And is never for the young person who died but loved ones left behind who will be comforted by the kind words of others.

Of course. Kindness matters.

Babs03

Oh c’mon, if people can’t be nice when a young person has died it reflects much more badly on us than anyone else. And is never for the young person who died but loved ones left behind who will be comforted by the kind words of others.

This is how I feel.

Well said Babs03 surely a little bit of poetic license in such circumstances is allowed.

Oh c’mon, if people can’t be nice when a young person has died it reflects much more badly on us than anyone else. And is never for the young person who died but loved ones left behind who will be comforted by the kind words of others.

When my sister in law died in 1998, I wrote in the sympathy card that she always lit up a room. I wrote this because it was true and I'm not sure if I'd heard the phrase previously, and definitely not in the press. Whether it's just become 'the thing to say' these days, I wouldn't know.

I also find it amazing that every child who died prematurely had such a wonderful, friendly sunny personality and was beloved by their teachers and classmates. But perhaps having been wise and selfless enough not to have children I am a mite cynical of all their little angels.