fancythat
Why do you think he needed that?
.. a controlling, assertive wife
Because from reading THE book, in Harry's own words, I got the impression that, even before Meghan, he was disgruntled about many things, he was drifting, and unhappy with his lot. She took him in hand, pointed him in a new direction, and gave him the excuse to leave it all behind, and start afresh. (Except of course, they didn't go about it very well). Whether he is now truly happier, I don't know?
Just a thought, if they had gone to Africa, both on neutral ground, and pursued their goals, things might have been rosier?