Being called a 'Guy'

Yes I have just had a chat about puddings and parking. Sorry if that doesnt meet peoples high standards

I suppose there will always be turns of phrase/words we don't like.

I think people are just chatting about it mainly.

NotSpaghetti

*Quokka*, I don't think anyone is "worrying" about it.

Venting about it then?

Quokka, I don't think anyone is "worrying" about it.

Not a problem for me. I’m with those who say there are better things to worry about.

I’m not keen on being called ‘young lady’ when I’m clearly not.
Not really keen on sweetheart or darling either.
But as others have already said, as long as it comes with a smile, I can live with it.

I always say I’m going out with the girls, and btw I think it’s lovely.
Now I’m wondering what other term I would use when informing my OH where I’m going.
I going out with my ladies?
Im going out with the ladies?
Im going out with my friends?
Im going out with ( list 6 names)
I think not.

I've found 'guys' perfectly acceptable for literally decades.
I have a delightful local shop owner who calls me 'ma'am' which I loathe, but he feels it's respectful. Personally I dislike 'ladies'. Like ma'am I find it old-fashioned, and reminds me I'm turning into my grandmother (which obviously I am).

I don't mind as long as I get a smile with it

I don't mind 'girls' either. I think it's because my formidable grandmother and her sisters called themselves 'the gels' (local accent - hard 'g').
They, like many of the facory workers were hard-working and hard-playing; they took no nonsense from anyone, had no regard for supposed 'social betters', and valued people according to their character & deeds. They made quite a group to cheer on the one who became the first woman mayor locally. Us younger ones were honorary 'gels' and so i never thought of it as 'twee'

I’d much rather be greeted with guys than ladies

True cornergran
My DMiL, who died this year aged 98, always referred to her "girls" meaning her old school friends who met up in Edinburgh several times a year. I believe one outlived her as that family came to her funeral.

We’re all different. The things that irritate us will be different. Personally I thoroughly dislike being addressed as ‘guys’ just as I dislike a friend telling me she’s been out with ‘the girls’ when they are all over 80. I’m sure there are terms I habitually use that irritate other people. All part of living.

It doesn’t bother me at all. 👍

Sixty miles is only an hours drive, no need to stay over unless you were planning on getting drunk

That BBQ invitation. CelieanneI wouldn't mind receiving that. I possibly wouldn't have wanted the hassle of staying at an hotel but your own son's 50th! A real compliment.

Our walking group passed some fishermen on our walk. "Good morning ladies" said one. I replied "good morning gentlemen" which seemed to cause amusement.
We are gentlemen are we ha ha ha.
I don't really like to be called a guy but I guess there are worse things. I might expect it in a restaurant.
I also dislike "oh bless" Maybee
And "you're welcome" every second sentence.

We have family members who say "guys" I've they mean everyone.

I don't like it but would still go to the birthday celebrations!

I would actually be more dismayed that it was a barbecue though as I really hate the smell of them! ☹️

Celieanne86

When my son was 50 he had a bbq at his home which is 60 miles from us and sent his dad and me an invitation by email……HI GUYS HAVING A BBQ AT HOME ON DATE, HOPE YOU CAN MAKE IT CANT FIND YOU A BED HERE SO AM SENDING DETAILS OF LOCAL HOTELS HOPE YOU CAN MAKE IT…..
No we didn’t bother going and felt both hurt and rejected and it has never been mentioned since. My daughter went and said we wouldn’t have enjoyed it anyway it was mainly friends and was very noisy and drink, but it would have been nice to have been asked properly.

From the wording it was a group invitation to a barbecue at home.
I'd have been flattered to have been included in the gang!

Just thinking about this and I've remembered that our lovely son in law always says 'Hi guys' when he comes round.

Celieanne
Are you seriously saying that you didn’t attend your sons bbq because he called his parents Guys Your loss. He sounds a lovely friendly person.

i can't see anything wrong with it at all.
i'm puzzled why some people feel so strongly against it.
it just sounds friendly and informal to me.

Doesn't bother me at all

Oldnproud

Urmstongran

I don’t mind it at all. Sounds cheery and friendly to me whenever it’s been used and I always feel warmly included by it.
😊

Me too.

Me three!

Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face!

It was a BBQ, not a haute cuisine fine dining experience at a Michelin starred restaurant

Come on guys