And yet I still see people posting almost aggressive responses to grandmothers who feel ignored, and who feel they have no input into the way their son/daughter is raising their grandchildren. Now, I'm certainly not for criticising or interfering, but the odd piece of gentle advice is surely what we are here for? In fact, it is very sad that such advice isn't sought after, because it can be very reassuring. There is so much you do not know, when you're in your 20s and 30s, and the internet can be confusing and misleading. Elders should be respected and valued, but instead we have the doctrine of individualism and independence - new parents should be 'able to do it THEIR way.' Ah well! - the verdict will be pronounced by their own children, and I think they will realise they did not 'know best', any more than we did.