People who give you chapter and verse about people you don't know ow

Gosh yes, I can immediately think of two friends (who don't know each other) both very highly strung and both have 'verbal diarrhoea' (as my dear late dad would have said).
Both lovely people who would do anything for you but with both of them I cone away from seeing them feeling like I've gone 10 rounds with Tyson. They are exhausting company. To be seen infrequently. But we're all different, I'm sure they think things about me.
Such as 'she doesn't talk much'?

Life's too short; I avoid people like this unless they're family members!

Mea culpa, mea maxima culpa. ??

My mother is like this and always has been. Last time I phoned her she spoke about herself and her ailments and about people she knows for nearly an hour without stopping - never once enquired how I am. She is a bit deaf and seems to have retreated into her own world as well which seems to make it worse. She especially loves hogging the lime light in group discussions which can be so frustrating, partly it seems as she finds it hard to hear what others are saying.

Or they are dying/dead

VintageJazz
Maybe organise another catch up without her.

My mother in law!! And most of the people she has to tell you about have a son who is a solicitor/doctor/minor aristocracy. And she really does not know any aristocrats!!!

got a S I L so much like this . got so bad cant be bothered to tell her anything or ask about anyone . likes to hog the limelight .

shame as makes not want to bother.

I know someone like this but she talks only about herself. On and on and on, If you try to say something for instance 'oh yes we went there last year it's very nice' I'm not even able to finish the sentence.

My in laws used to do this all the time when DH and I were with them, all about distant relatives/past neighbours/childhood holidays etc but this was done solely to exclude me. At first I used to try to join in conversations by asking questions etc but mostly just ignored so gave up.

I have a couple of riends like this and find that they really drain my energy, specially in one-to-one situations where I nod and smile and plan my escape!

I contacted a friend who I hadn't been in touch with since the seventies. I thought we'd have so much to catch up on. Instead she went on and on about her daughter's awful mother in law! She didn't ask a thing about me. After one long phone call I never rang her again.

I have to wonder if we, in general, are getting more intolerant ?
Has spending time in lock down or isolation made us more selfish about what we want to talk about and the fact that maybe we feel that we aren't getting our say or not being taken notice of ?
This isn't the first post on this subject or a similar one !
Why can we not take a breath, be pleased about what our friends are telling us about their lives - even if we don't know the people that we are talking about, and wait our turn to have our say ? Is that not what friendship is about?

I had a colleague who used to ramble on about her numerous relatives. It wouldn't have been so bad if she just got quickly to the point, but there was loads of ponderous pauses as if she was telling us something deep and meaningful rather than what colour her nephew was painting the bathroom.

One of our lunch ladies did this but she made it worse by starting with her morning where hubby made breakfast, I said I was going to lunch, he said, I said, he said he would give me a lift etc. This made the story twice as long and boring.

Sorry but I have no patience when confronted with this type of behaviour.
I tend to cut the conversation short by reminding them that I don’t know the person nor am I interested in their lives.
After a few reminders they eventually get it.
Life is too short to put up with this nonsense.

We knew someone like this, we made a point of never asking about a journey he made. He would tell us the number of every road he took, even the type of gravel in a layby, very wearing.

My sister-in-law does this and rabbits on about folk we don't know . She goes into the minutest detail about such trivial matters and makes out the most mundane ordinary events were life changing. Consequently I spend as little time as possible with her. She is a kind hearted soul but has no concept of body language or social skills.

It's very dull! I have a friend who always tells me about everyone she knows, extended family some I know and at one time, during school years, mothers of friends of her daughter. Now that daughter is just the same, she joined us,--crashed our meetup-- uninvited, for lunch on one occasion and went into enormous detail about some of her colleagues. On and on she went a couple of hours later, I wanted to scream, "don't know any of these people, don't give a shiny ^s**t about them either" Unless someone is a raconteur, most aren't, don't bore others about people they've never met, how interested can we be??? Only to be equalled by people who talk about themselves or to make every situation under discussion about them.

I had a colleague who did this. We were in an office, 6 or 7 of us around the desk and she'd start. And it would go on and on. We'd all sit there politely smiling.

Then one day another colleague turned to her and shouted is there a point to this story?

We all felt quite sorry for her. She looked so crestfallen. But it didn't stop her. Within minutes she was off again. Happy days.

I have a friend like that. I think a lot of it is loneliness and not meeting many people with that particular one. Either that or they may just be a boring person. Limit the times you meet, life’s too short really. Sad that you weren’t able to have a good catch up with your other friends.

After your update Vintagejazz, I would be arranging a catch up without her the next time!

Yes I do ann.

We did that so many times but she just raised her voice and demanded our attention.

change the subject by cutting in with something else to another of the group!