I was looking for the quote: "Do good by stealth", thinking it was biblical, but tracked it down (thank you, Internet) to Alexander Pope's Essay on Man and the full line is : “Do good by stealth, and blush to find it fame.” In other words, be embarrassed if you get a reputation for 'doing good'. It's a good 60 years since I studied that poem, but the line - or half of it - had stayed with me.
Unbearable grief compounded by our adult children’s reactions


