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boheminan Tue 14-Jan-20 17:13:46

My dad hated my ex on first sight because ex didn't do a job that got his hands dirty (he was an academic) and my dad was a working class engineer with permanently dirty hands. They hardly ever spoke all the time my dad was alive.

shysal Tue 14-Jan-20 17:13:43

They thought he wasn't good enough for me. They were probably right but I was determined to marry him. Divorced after about 35 years.

ginny Tue 14-Jan-20 17:12:09

My Mum disliked him at first but ended up loving him as much as her own son. He ended up being closer to her than his own mother.

Sara65 Tue 14-Jan-20 17:06:31

They didn’t speak to him for two years, they strongly disapproved because he was divorced, a teenage marriage which lasted about a year.

Fast forward forty five years, and I haven’t spoken to her for twenty years, while he still visits her with the children now and then.

silverlining48 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:51:07

My mum loved him and he loved her.

knickas63 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:43:15

They liked him, and he loved them. My mother mothered him.

jura2 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:42:12

My mum adored my OH, he could do no wrong. My dad liked him but was always a bit in awe of him. Mum spoke perfect English, dad did not.

JackyB Tue 14-Jan-20 16:40:43

They never criticised. My father was very pro-German, so he approved of my marrying a German.

Jane10 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:19:32

Not keen but put a brave face on it.

sharon103 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:15:45

They loved him. We married April 1975. (Shotgun) Mum said I was a lucky girl. In another breathe she said she didn't think it would last although she hoped it would.
He cleared off in January 1987 with someone he worked with. Divorced January 1987 sad

Grammaretto Tue 14-Jan-20 16:12:02

MiniMoon grin

Grammaretto Tue 14-Jan-20 16:10:34

DM adored him. She loved her in-laws better than her own children. That's what she said anyway and it certainly worked as they were all good to her!

TrendyNannie6 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:09:48

They liked him from day one, welcomed him into the family treated him like a son and it continued until they both passed away, he had a lot of respect for them too and called them mum n dad

MiniMoon Tue 14-Jan-20 16:08:30

I'm sure they liked him. They always seemed happy to see him. I think they were relieved when he asked me to marry him. I was 29 and they must have thought that I was never going to find a man.

M0nica Tue 14-Jan-20 16:08:09

Definitely liked - and did until the day they died - and trusted him and consulted him about any work they were thinking of having done to the house.

threexnanny Tue 14-Jan-20 16:08:01

He got on well with Dad immediately, but took longer with Mum.

MissAdventure Tue 14-Jan-20 16:07:40

Were they right, kircubbin?

GrannyGravy13 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:05:52

Definitely liked, had lots of multi-generation holidays, always spent time together over Christmas, Easter and birthdays.

kircubbin2000 Tue 14-Jan-20 16:04:50

Didn't like him, researched his past and heard he was a drinker.

Calendargirl Tue 14-Jan-20 16:02:07

I think they liked him.

MissAdventure Tue 14-Jan-20 15:50:17

When they first met your husband/wife?
My mum always had a love/hate relationship with my ex.
Apparently he took great big steps all around her living room (one of her reasons!)