Getting anti social

Yes, we have become less sociable and more inclined to stay at home.

One reason is the DH hasn't been in the best of health for the last couple of years. This has prevented us going out and meeting new people, but I wonder if we would have done so, if things had been different healthwise.

i hate entertaining and still do ...if you cant be bothered .enjoy some ME TIME instead...you can always go to a restaurant to see family..

I love cooking and we have always enjoyed entertaining at home but what has changed now we are older and many of our friends are retired is that we invite folk to lunch, especially Sunday lunch, rather than invite them for an evening meal.

Sharon your comment made me laugh, that's just how I feel.

Nope, reckon I'm just as socially active as ever. However, by choice we have all moved from homes to commercial outlets. Equal fun and no hassle for anyone. I think, in our case, economy and babysitting was part of our reason for using homes originally.

I find that I can't tolerate certain people the way I used to anymore, so avoid them. Gradually my circle of friends has diminished over the last few years and I don't miss them.

We have a very limited social life and it's got worse since OH retired as we no longer have the money to just go and do things like we used to.

I'm a much more naturally chatty and sociable person than OH is but even I find that once we've had dinner I really can't be bothered to think about going to see friends and I can't even remember the last time we had anyone over for dinner, it's been that long!

Even during the daytime we just walk the dog round the park a couple of times a day and if we bump into someone we know there it's great to chat to them but we don't go out of our way to meet up with anyone, so yes I guess we are now both pretty anti social

Absolutely.

@MerylStreep

Let me get this straight.

You visited every country in Europe on your motor home?

My problem is that our lovely friends invite us over for meals so we need to reciprocate, even if Mr C is fairly anti-social, muttering darkly at all the extra work necessary.

When we host, we enjoy doing so; I think that it's just the thought of the prep that puts Mr C off. The phrase 'twisting arm' doesn't come into it! Much.

Perhaps in the past you (subconsciously) felt you HAD to do the social rounds, dinner parties, seen and being seen, chumming up with people when you didn't feel like it or wanted to?

Now you've found your natural rhythm and decided "well, this is our life now - to hell with all the rest!"

Good on you.

I can't do much entertaining these days as I'm very old and all my bones hurt. It's easier to go out for coffee/lunch just now and again. Mostly I'm better off alone.

Me too. Starting to play the uke was one of the best things I ever did!

I don't have a social life these days - it started 11 years ago when my mum died and I became part time carer for my dad, as well as working full time and then after he died, it came down to lack of money! Bills that had been split 3 ways (dad, son and me) now had to split in half.
Most of the time I don't mind, - or didn't until I heard that my last local friend will be moving away from the village in the near future.

I'm sure you mean un sociable rather than anti sociable unless of course you are rampaging in the neighbourhood. I one what you mean though about entertaining at home. There has been a big move to meeting people outside of homes for meals etc nowadays basically following the habit from the USA. Instead of entertaining at home. Seems young people have parties still at home though these are drinks, snacks, music rather than meals. Perhaps you've caught the trend!

It's the wrong season to be out and about or socialising anyway. I'm far more sociable on a warm summer day - so leave me be to 'hibernate' in January!

Since retiring we don't go 'out-out' (to use the phrase of the moment) like we used to. We're quite happy to pop to our local pub and bring home a take-away on our return, once a week.
I enjoy just 'being' in my home, working long hours I was hardly ever in it so its nice to relax and enjoy it now.
My husband was never one for staying out v late, I was the 'party animal' but really cba now; been there, done that!
So yes I'd described us a being selectively sociable too (love this phrase) we're in our early 60's.

For me, it's an age/energy thing. When I was younger (and working full-time, and child-rearing) we used to throw parties (with dancing and jollity), have people over for meals, have family & friends to stay, have DS's friends round, etc. Now I'm older and retired, I just can't face that level of activity!

This week I have: a meeting in London (otherwise would be on a Nordic walk),exercise class on Wednesday, a friend in for coffee on Thursday, book club Thursday evening to discuss a book I loved, a trip to London with husband to see the Blake exhibition, trip to Eastbourne to visit my sister and going to a friend's for lunch on Sunday. It's not exactly entertaining but very full socially. I think I am getting MORE social with age as another GNetter said above. In fact sometimes I feel I don't have enough time for my work.

Yes of course, I mean unsociable ! As opposed to anti social ?

I don't think I have ever been a sociable person in the sense of enjoying parties or crowds of people but for most of my life I haven't had the option.

When you bring up 2 children and a sick husband, socialising is off the table.

Whe you are then alone with 2 growing boys and no money for a babysitter or nights out, socialising is off the table too.

However, I've ever really missed it. I can be sociable if thrown into a crowd but I much prefer to be by myself listening to TED talks and podcasts about science and history!!

My sister (a real good-time girl) once told me I was a fuddy-duddy - I was 22 at the time - and I agreed.
I still am, 50 years later.

Dh and I are both 67. I used to be more social than him but he is more chatty and sociable than me these days. We do have an evening out for dinner once a month with 2 couples who have been very good friends for years. I've found as I get older I am sometimes reluctant to make the effort but always enjoy myself once we are there and I wouldn't want to lose such precious friends.
I must admit thought that this past year we seem to prefer going out during the day rather than the evening. I would never have considered an afternoon rather than evening visit to the cinema until the last couple of years. Don't really know why ...maybe in my head day time was for working not pleasure. These days we much prefer to go as early as possible and avoid coming home in the dark.

We like our own company too, don't like going out much in the evening but we do enjoy having lunch out with friends. We all feel this is better than cooking, washing up etc at home.

I missed a lunch today pretending I wasn't well. It went on till after 5 but unfortunately 2 friends called to see how I was and stayed till after 7. Then they invited me to an other lunch.
I just want to read my book and lounge in old clothes.

I've never liked hosting very much and always preferred to be a guest. Now, at 66, I've got far worse and would much rather go out - or just be alone at home. Luckily, my kids have a lot of parties now!