If you could turn back time

I would go back in time to when my Husband left me, my grief was so bad, I didn’t deal with it well a d it affected my children. They were not always my first priority. I didn’t treat them badly, in-fact I tried to make up for their Father’s lack of interest in all of us after 22 years of marriage the split took me years to recover from. I would love the time to show my children my strengths and weaknesses.

If I could start again with different parents, knowing what I have learned in this life, then I would love to give it a go. But I know there were worse parents than mine and without that hindsight I may well have made some of the same mistakes with the same dire consequences. I suppose I would settle for going back to a time before something terrible happened to one of my children and somehow prevent it.

I wouldn't know where to start. If I could go back to my early days at junior school and pay more attention to maths that would be a help.
I am what I am - a middle-aged woman with plenty I could look back on with my fair share of regrets - I could have made different choices but things are reasonable.

To go back to being 39 when my marriage broke up and to behave in a much more ‘dignified’ manner during my 40s !!

Notagran, I'd miss the childhood. I remember it as an unhappy time. I really loved the years when all my children were young and it seemed as if life would go on forever.

Wish I could meet up with my Mother again so that I could thank her for my much loved childhood/upbringing. Don't think I ever expressed my love, admiration and respect for her sufficiently. And my husband. He knew all the previous but it would just be nice to do catch up. Mmmmm..

I would like to go back to when my children had just started school. I would not want to change anything but being so young at the time maybe appreciate my life and what I had more than I did at that time and not taking everything for granted.

I wish I had moved away when we were younger like my oh wanted .

If i could go back i would tell myself the reasons why i should not have married at the age of 19.

I would find out about further education and tried my hardest to go to Univercity when it did mean so much to go there.

I would have been either a teacher or a librarian two jobs i always wanted but never achieved due to various circumstances.

I would never have married and just been a single independant woman who worked hard and travelled.

I would have been the maiden aunt in the family and devoted myself to my nephews and nieces, brothers and sisters and of course my parents whilst they were alive.

I would have been ME, not the person i am right now in my life.

I would go back just eight years to be seventy again. Before I lost so much of my strength, and became too short to ride my much loved bike that I had been riding for fortysix years.

I would go back to the age of 20 when I met my lovely husband. Hormones being what they are I became pregnant and we got married far too young. Never really enjoyed my young years, quite poverty stricken, but time has been reasonably good and I now have my 2 lovely children and 4 fantastic grandchildren. But unfortunately my darling husband passed away 3 years ago. I miss him so much, but would have preferred a bit more time as a single woman in my twenties.

I saw Freddie Mercury on stage some time before he joined Smile (who became Queen). He was recruited, from an ad in Melody Maker, as singer to the band my then boyfriend was in. Right from the off it was clear he had total star quality. Lovely manners too. I never did see Queen though. My boyfriend from those days claimed Freddie had 'sold out' but I suspect a massive dose of envy there!

I wouldn't go back in time. Each age has brought something both good and bad and I'm just grateful still to be here, to be (cross fingers) well and to live as I do.

I'd go back to my teens and not make the same mistakes. However making mistakes is all part of growing up, so perhaps not.

There's a Saturday night when I was 15 when it would probably have been better if I had stayed at home! Having said that I would have made other mistakes.......

I would turn back to being born to different parents. My childhood was not happy and has affected me all my life. I would still want my DH and children with whom I would hopefully have had an even better relationship.

I saw all the greats ( including Queen with Freddie) but I never saw Marc Bolan live as I really wanted to but he died before I managed it.
Stones, Beatles ( they were RUBBISH), Otis,Springsteen-Bowie, oh - far too many to list but I'd have loved to have seen Bolan!

I would go back to being 20 again.... as I was engaged on my 21 on my 21st.... worst days work I ever did.

I don't think I would go back. I didn't feel very wanted by my parents, my first marriage was sh***e but gave me two wonderful daughters. I got out of a bad situation, brought my girls up as a single parent, then at 50 realised my dream of doing a degree. Also at 50 met my DOH, who I am marrying in May!! Also have a beautiful baby GD. Yes I had a bad early life but the positives outweigh the negatives and my life really did begin at 50!!

Greyduster - can I recommend researching your mother’s family tree on the internet? You may be surprised, as I was, how much you can learn about your family’s background.

I would go back to the start of my teens with all the feelings that surging hormones bring, not to mention the best music there has ever been or will be. Everyone has "their time".

I'd go back just 1 year and correct the stupid, life changing decision I took then. If only......

Would have said yes to the love of my life instead of marrying my ex as everyone convinced ( pushed ) me too!
Then I would not have my lovely DS, DiL & my amazing Grandchildren so what would be the point in change?

Rivernana I've got to admit I'm happy as I am with all the memories I have. Xx

I have so many regrets. I broke up with a great love because I felt I was too young to settle down and then married someone else very shortly after. The marriage has been OK but is OK enough? Too old now to leave and set up on my own.

I would love to be younger again but I appreciate the knowledge wisdom and hindsight that comes with advancing years. I made wrong choices in the past but who’s to say I wouldn’t repeat that. I do have regrets though. I let the love of my life go.