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NanKate Sun 08-Dec-19 20:58:39

As some of you will know I don’t like and am not very good at cooking. In fact it bores me stiff.

Tonight when I started preparing the Sunday Dinner/Supper I could have thrown it all in the bin and had toast and marmalade or a sarnie. I also love bread and cheese and a glass of wine all taking under 10 mins to prepare.

My DH has always been a hard worker and at 74 is still beavering away. If I said I didn’t feel well he would just take over and cook the supper I know. However my excuse is boredom after 48 years of cooking and laziness. I just can’t take DH away from all his list of jobs because I can’t be ar* to cook !

DH likes a traditional Sunday meal, but would eat anything I gave him. All the faff over preparing veg drives me mad, when I told DH he said he would do the veg as he doesn’t like the boxes of veg I get from M and S and cook in the microwave.

So this thread is mainly to see if anyone else finds cooking boring, dull and repetitive.

Next Sunday I will tell DH that I fancy a carvery lunch and I know he will agree. If only we could go to the carvery every week.

Finally I wish Marydoll or Kitty would come and cater for us for a week or two. I am in awe when they rustles up cakes, casseroles etc. Mary even bakes bread for breakfast ???

Sorry to moan as I know some Gransnetters would like someone to cook for and eat with and I feel rather ashamed to be so lazy.

Dillyduck Mon 09-Dec-19 10:55:34

When did you last have a holiday??
Go away for the weekend?
I get bored with my own cooking until I go away on holiday, then I realise that my own cooking is far better!

jenpax Mon 09-Dec-19 11:01:01

I love cooking even for just me but then I also love food especially spicy food! I really couldn’t cope with just a sandwich or bowl of cereal as others have mentioned ?
However I find house work boring boring and tedious!!? it’s the sheer repetitive mind numbing activities that I hate! Cleaning, dusting, tidying is all so boring and hateful to me especially as it needs to be done over and over again! Cooking also has to be repeated I grant, but at least it’s something different each time and I can get my creative spirit involved whereas cleaning the loo!??‍♀️

kittylester Mon 09-Dec-19 11:02:43

One of the best things about a sunday roast (apart from the meal itself) is that there is also food for monday with next to no cooking involved.

Quizzer Mon 09-Dec-19 11:03:17

I don't dislike cooking, just feel I could be doing something more interesting.

Gizzy48 Mon 09-Dec-19 11:09:49

MissAdventure

I'm another who hates cooking, and we had Hello Fresh for a little while, but decided it didn't suit our lifestyle. We had tried other recipe boxes and come to the same conclusion. But we decided to give it one more go and have been with our current scheme for about a year now and it seems to tick every box. Four meals a week - the other days will be beans on toast, scrambled eggs, baked potato or something quick and ready from the supermarket.

Having all the ingredients measured out in one package, no waste, helps a lot, and this particular box ( not sure I should advertise, but it starts with g) has extremely simple recipes for the most part. Many people who enjoy cooking also enjoy being creative; I don't feel creative with this box but I am now finding I enjoy choosing the meals (we always have two vegetarian and two fish) and although I can't describe the experience as "fun*, I do know we're getting a healthy meal and almost all of them taste good.

It is more expensive than buying all fresh ingredients, but we feel we're paying for the benefutd. My husband has mild Alzheimer's, and I have to watch him like a hawk when he helps me, because he keeps second-guessing and putting things in the wrong pot or forgetting the oil.

You can also allow them to choose what meals to send you, which is like Father Christmas coming! And you don't have to have it every week. And we must have cut by about two thirds the number of takeaways we have)

So if you really are bored with cooking (or, like me, don't think you're good at it) this could be a solution for you.

travelsafar Mon 09-Dec-19 11:10:25

We very often just have a sandwich and fruit especially if i have been out most of the day, the thought of cooking a meal puts me right off. We had tuna mayo sandwich last night, hubbie had a small individual trifle after and i had an apple. No washing up to speak off and no lingering cooking smells. Today i will make a big shepherd pie for Dh and freeze some of it and i will have a salmon salad. We prefer differentt foods which i think also makes me not want to cook. I could live off salad everyday if i had my way. smile

NannyG123 Mon 09-Dec-19 11:11:33

I hate cooking, my husband cooks quite a lot, but he's a traditional meat and 2 veg man.,or something with chips. Whereas I like pasta etc. So when we got out which is about once or twice a month I always have a pasta based dish.

Pammie1 Mon 09-Dec-19 11:16:39

I used to love cooking and since I’ve been on my own (Hubbie died nearly three years ago) I really can’t be arsed any more. I have a suggestion for all those out there who feel the same. Wiltshire Farm Foods deliver lovely ready meals which go straight from freezer to oven or microwave. Really nice and a wide range to choose from.

Magrithea Mon 09-Dec-19 11:30:43

I think most of us, if we're honest, find cooking every night boring and repetitive. You're lucky NanKate that your DH will take over. I've been married to mine for 38 years and I don't think he's ever cooked me a meal!!!!

hazel93 Mon 09-Dec-19 11:32:35

I still enjoy cooking but certainly can't be arsed these days to do so daily.
OH is well aware that now, the question is not what's for dinner but is there dinner .

jannxxx Mon 09-Dec-19 11:32:44

i loved cooking and baking, but when your alone it all seems a faff, so i get ready meals, i get prepped frozen veg anything for easiness, and thats it for sunday dinner, some days i have no meal and have cheese and crackers instead,

Granmaz Mon 09-Dec-19 11:37:06

I love cooking but made a vow several years ago, that I wouldn’t spend more than 30/40 minutes cooking a meal for myself and DH unless we’re entertaining. I think it’s possible to prepare and cook a Sunday roast in 40 - buy a pre cooked Chicken (assuming you wouldn’t mind the expense of that, if your prepared to go to a carvery) remove the legs and thighs (as one joint) put them in a roasting tin along with frozen roast potatoes and any other veg you want to roast. Put it in the oven 180/200oC for 35 minutes, turning potatoes and veg halfway through. Cook a few extra veg in the last 5/6 minutes, make gravy from bisto and cook a couple of frozen Yorkshire’s in the roasting tin for the last 5 mins of cooking time. You then have the remains of the cooked chicken to make a simple quick risotto, pasta bake, or just have cold in a sandwich. Hope this helps with you Sunday morning dilemma it really doesn’t need to be a chore.

Jue1 Mon 09-Dec-19 11:39:27

Framilode
Get him to cook his breakfast himself.
I struggle now that we are both retired with the job share in our house. I do all the house work.
The only thing my husband does is cook the Sunday breakfast and an occasional meal. I value that small bit of help although he never does the dishes.
I’m working on increasing his share in the house ?

Keeper1 Mon 09-Dec-19 11:47:46

I am so with you it is boring and I hate the fact that you can spend hours preparing a meal and it is over in a flash. I cannot bear all the cooking programmes and watching people in a professional kitchen looks like hell to me.

Graygirl Mon 09-Dec-19 11:49:05

Hi cooked for a living, retired 6years ago for health reasons. Different type of cooking these days use lot's of hacks

ReadyMeals Mon 09-Dec-19 11:51:09

Could you not swap some of your jobs with DH so you do something you haven't done every day all your life, and he can do the cooking that you are bored with? There are very few jobs a man can do that a woman cannot, and if you have to learn a new skill it might be more interesting to you than same old same old.

Funnygran Mon 09-Dec-19 12:09:02

I don’t mind cooking but do get bored trying to think of something different. DH isn’t fussy and likes most things. I had been going to make a proper Sunday dinner last night as my son was coming up. He cancelled through the day as he has a bug. So we had baked beans on toast with bacon and it was delicious. And pretty fuss free.

kittylester Mon 09-Dec-19 12:10:51

magrithea, I disagree with your comment that most of us, if we are honest........

I love cooking as I said above!

georgia101 Mon 09-Dec-19 12:11:55

I used to like cooking when our children were living at home, but after decades of cooking the same meals it became a chore, particularly now it's just us two. Now we've discovered the keto diet and it's a whole different type of meal to that I always did - the old meat and 2 veg one - and my interest in cooking has been rekindled, although I'd still prefer to not cook at all. Maybe trying a different style of meal might help stave off other's boredom too? Obviously it won't help if you've never enjoyed cooking though.

HootyMcOwlface Mon 09-Dec-19 12:14:18

Me too, Nankate. I use frozen veg, just bung in boiling water and Bob’s your uncle (apart from carrots, I like fresh carrots but they take only a couple of mins to prepare). I also have frozen roast potatoes and started using frozen Yorkshire puds too. Easy peasey. Can’t stand cooking nor deciding what to have, like you I will have a sandwich or something simple if it’s just for me - wish someone else would do it all for me.

vickya Mon 09-Dec-19 12:15:47

Keeper1 I don't want to cook, although I did for family as they were growing up. I think being a weightwatcher spaoils it a bit too. And I don't have the energy to do it daily now. We do have ready meals and fresh veg mostly. Burgers and buns or hot dogs are favourite treats, but only after weigh in smile. But I DO like watching cooking programmes. I don't want to cook like them, I want Nigela, or James Martin to invite me to eat with them though after they cook smile

Fennel Mon 09-Dec-19 12:18:22

I like cooking and baking, but now feel like the mouse on the treadmill, neverending planning shopping cooking.Husband does do the washing up, but it takes him about as much time as I do with everything else.
He has many likes and dislikes, and won't eat 'shop made rubbish'. Even bread.
He's offered do do some of the baking, but from past experience it doesn't help - he spends all day on a simple job and keeps asking me questions about it.
I know I've spoilt him, but we do have healthy meals
Had a big row about it last night, he's so b.....y fussy!

CarlyD7 Mon 09-Dec-19 12:32:54

My husband does 50% of the cooking - otherwise we'd live on sandwiches and soup (and the occasional salad). We've always cooked from scratch and now, like a lot of people here, I can't be a***d. I have been known to "down tools" and go on strike and he just sighs and takes over (even after a day at work) Certainly if others are "demanding" cooked breakfast, roast dinners, etc. I would say that it's time they learned to cook them. Actions speak louder than words - if you are sick of it, don't do it - if you keep on doing it, they'll keep on letting you !

CarlyD7 Mon 09-Dec-19 12:34:43

PS Forgot to add - a friend of mine went through this and moaned constantly that her husband wouldn't do any of the cooking. I happened to be there one evening when he tried to do spag bol (following her written out instructions). She hovered over him and criticised everything he did, finishing with "oh, for God's sake, let me do it ... " Was it any wonder that he never tried again ??

AlisonKF Mon 09-Dec-19 12:38:33

After cooking Christmas dinner for 23 consecutive years, I went on strike and insisted on a hotel lunch. It was so eye wateringly expensive ( double normal price ) and so inadequate, that I returned to the stove slavery the next year. That was long ago. I live happily alone now and do as little cooking as possible. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND ready made mashed potatoes (even Delia has used these). Also frozen vegetables which are more nutritious than bought in a supermarket and even in veg. boxes. Such stratagems make cooking veggie meals very easy and quick. Cooking meat is time consuming and impractical for one person except occasionally. I like ham and cheese sandwiches for the protein.