I’m sick to death of it.

My sons have 'food issues'- youngest son is worst.very finicky.(not as bad as my daughters chap though,he only eats fish& chips!)

I hate it too, but as my youngest boys are 21& 16 im still doing the drudgery

Yes I get fed up thinking what are we going to have today and then cooking it. I don't do any cooking or planning on Mondays, Mr Barmey does it and he is not that good at cooking, but he does it without moaning. Tonight he is having chips, eggs and beans while I have cheese on toast and a yogurt.

If you don't like cooking are there any jobs you could swap with your husband, maybe there is a few jobs that you would.t mind doing instead.

Apparently at the menopause the nuturing hormone disappears. I think this is the reason many of us were happy to give our children nutritious meals and now can't be arsed. My nurturing is done.

I only enjoy it if I am cooking for someone who enjoys eating it. Unfortunately my DH has no interest at all in food and doesn't like to try anything interesting or different so when it's just us I find cooking very boring and long for someone to cook for me.

I hate cooking now, for me widowed. There is no point in cooking a fancy meal these days, so I don`t. I have lots of plain food, lots of veg and so on, very healthy but I no longer do the sauces, roasts or gravy. I might do a casserole once in a while just for hm ready meals

If my husband was still alive, then yes, I would still enjoy it and be looking forward to that nice mealtime for two. If I needed help with prep, I would ask and he would do it

Ah yes, pass me the smoked roe will you. Begone you roast tatties and slabs of meat.

I learned to cook at a very young age. Stood on a buffet, making pastry, breads, cakes and later on, jam and chutneys. I really enjoyed it and I did most of the cooking later on. When my parents moved into sheltered housing and became frail I made meals for their freezer.
When I got married things changed big time. DH was the fussiest eater on the planet. I sort of knew but the reality. Humph ! From being a tot he would eat very little and only one thing, like braised liver or mucky fat tea cakes for weeks on end.
Now, don’t get me wrong I miss him terribly but not the food issues.
It’s hard to bake for one. I buy a cream bun occasionally as a treat and get ready meals if it’s something I fancy. But I do think that it’s difficult to balance a diet when it’s so easy to butter toast or scramble eggs. No peeling or chopping. I could do with a proper freezer if there was room for one. That’s another thing to go in my dream flat I shall get. One day !

Millie I am with you on the tennis. On Rafa Nadal's wedding day in October I got a nice meal for two from M and S and we had a cocktail each to celebrate, followed my cream and caramel meringues. I know I am mad but that's me.

DH calls Wimbledon 'Salad Fortnight'.

You are not on your own, I used to cook and even bake occasionally, but now I would be happy to live on snacks and just go out for a meal once in a while with friends. My OH will gladly make something nothing elaborate but cooked food all the same !
Not sure if it is with getting older, I do wish that I had the positivity I had when younger, but it's left me.....probably never to return.

Very rarely ever done a Sunday lunch. Tradition Sunday food in our house has always been for 46 years beigals or black bread..smoked salmon cream cheese pickled cucumber and salads or a variant on this .. maybe smoked roe or herring or egg mayonnaise instead of or as well as the smoked salmon. Invite as many family to come as want to.. if they dont like bread theres crackers ..nobody ever complained. What a faff to do a whole roast dinner every week. Especially in the summer.

When we are in our child bearing years, perhaps nesting hormones kick in. We feel a need to nurture our children.

We don't have them anymore. I no longer feel the need to nurture DH. Let him nurture himself.

NanKate
Forget about the cooking! let's look forward to the tennis in January.

I feel a new GN Club has been started with all your encouragement.

What shall we call ourselves ? The can't be ars** club for reluctant cooks ?

DH cooks an excellent stir fry most weeks, so I don't cook every day.

He does like potatoes with the majority of his meals, I think that is from his Scottish background. When we go to a new restaurant he always asks me if they 'do vegetables' !

A glass or two of chilled Chablis, some French bread and Brie and maybe a few grapes, plus my book, is like nectar from the Gods to me.

I like your suggestion Kitty of alcohol whilst cooking but I suspect I would be under the table before the spuds were even cooked.

I’ve developed a real anxiety around food the last few years. I think menopause kicked it off, but now I’m just like you. The quicker it’s cooked the better. I worry much more at this time of year, as so much revolves around food. Will there be wasted food? Will there be enough? Can I get it all in my fridge? We’ve just had a new kitchen put in, a lovely tower double oven. You’d think I’d be in my element, but no, it’s just made it more necessary for masterpieces to evolve from the kitchen!! I’m just grateful this boredom has only set in the last few years, it would have been horrible to feel like this when my young family was growing up. I think there is a sense of , it should be finished, but of course it isn’t, we still need to eat. Now, I wonder, what can we have for tea??

Yes, I hate cooking, too, also washing up, cleaning, making the beds, doing the washing, ironing............. I'm just not a natural housewife, me, it all seems like a waste of time.

I find preparing food every day boring. I think it's mainly because I'm rately cooking what I would prefer to eat and also I'm preparing food at times I don't really want to eat. DH likes his evening meal at about 5.30 where as I could happily wait until about 7ish., and he doesn't like pasta, jacket potatoes or fish which I could happily live on, but I can't be bothered to cook seperate meals so end up just having what he's having.
Good cheese, good bread and good wine sounds like heaven to me.

NatKate You must be inside my head. Day in day out thinking of what to have to eat,then cooking whatever has come to mind. I feel there is no itger chore that needs doing every day. I too wiukd have a bit toast with cheese, beans, scrambled eggs !but no it's a cooked meal. I rarely buy prepared veg so its standing at the sink before the cooking even starts. 53 years tomorrow this has been my responsibility and I am absolutely fed up with it!

I am a reluctant cook, too! Sadly, my hubby has a spinal injury (since 2014) and needs a caliper to walk. He's too "wobbly" to be safe with anything hot, or taking food from the oven, so anything that needs to be cooked (or microwaved) has to be done by me! He does treat us both to Thursday Lunch and Sunday Lunch at our local restaurant most weeks. It's not open every day, or indeed, all year round - but he knows that cooking is a chore for me - he did do his share when younger and fitter. We are both "picky" eaters (he also has food allergies and IBS), and are trying to cut down on meat (I'd give it up altogether, but he struggles). Much sympathy here with anyone who is NOT a natural at cooking/baking etc.

I get fed up of having to think what to cook and then cook it each night, Only saving grace is that we have fish and chips on a Friday evening.
But Sundays are worse! I don't always do a roast, but seeing as my son only likes chicken or fish as well as being gluten intolerant, I end up cooking 2 meals as I like lamb pork and beef.
I can't see any reason why you can't go out for a carvery - even once a month would be great. Either that or your husband can cook something on Saturday evening!

I dont hate cooking but I feel that there are so many things that I would rather be doing. I dont shop, I get food delivered. About twenty years ago a dear friend of mine who was always my role model announced that she was retiring from teaching, she had brought up three children and from now on she would buy good cheese and bread and wine and give up cooking.

Same here, I cook hubby a meal because I have to, but half the time I don't have the same and just have a sandwich or snack. He's in respite for two weeks and all I've cooked is a bacon butty and a couple of ready meals lol

I hate cooking.But am really lucky my husband has cooked for 34 years.Both him abd our daughter disliked my cooking.

I hated all that faff when the kids were little. Now one is poorly and back at home, l still loathe the responsibility of cooking a proper evening meal.

I find it a chore when family come to visit.
They always expect a large meal. But I also don’t feel like cooking big meals after years and years of doing it.
The pleasure and enthusiasm has completely disappeared.

I mainly have ready prepared food such as salmon or chicken pieces bumped up with fresh veg.