What to do about Christmas?

I feel exactly the same! If it wasn't for my children I think I'd forget about xmas altogether! We spend so much money and time just for it to be over as quickly as it came! I might go on holiday next xmas and totally write it off!
I actually feel quite bad saying all of this as it's all about family etc but I've lost my mum my brother and my uncle so I don't have much of a family ? Anyway we must struggle on I guess ‼️

Gillybob, you need to hand Christmas over to someone else. Goodness knows you have done enough for your family. They of course are upset too but you are the one that is baring the brunt.
Children will be happy just to get some presents which other people can purchase on your behalf. Evie is too young to worry what day it is and I’m sure her Mum will make sure she is ok.
Please , think of yourself for once.

Last Christmas my H had just gone into care so although I went in daily to see him and participate in the activities , it was pretty grim but there was no alternative.
Some years ago I came out of hospital on Dec 23rd after a cancer op, had to wait until Jan 5th for results from histology, would I see another Christmas?
I didn’t know.
My husband diagnosed with pneumonia on Boxing Day.
It was a nightmare but ,by not giving Christmas any importance we survived it and so will you dear Gilly.
Just concentrate on you and yourH, let others take the strain, it will do them good and make them stronger.
There is lots of time before then for things to improve but just don’t think ahead, you will have many more Christmas’s with Evie to enjoy.

I'm sorry about that Gillybob. Would it be any help to make it a theme Christmas get together? What I have in mind is you frame the get toghether as a rebirth of hope and ensure all your guests know that is the theme of your party. The spiritual significances of the festivities really do matter so much more than pretence celebrations.

And - sentiment aside - I hope you will be considering sueing that hospital. You need to get some some money out of them.

Gillybob your DD will put on a good Christmas for Evie. Let's face it, you've done quite enough for your family, and more, in the past.

Forget about Christmas for now. Just think about the big picture, which, of course, is your dear husband.

Who knows how things will pan out in the next few weeks. He seems to be making a slow but good recovery. Perhaps, God willing, things will be a whole lot better by then. And then you both may be able to enjoy something with your family.

Oh Gilly, you really shouldn't have to be worrying about this right now. Your first consideration should be you and your DH.
As I remember it, from past posts, you are the family mainstay, and smooth life out for all of them.
This year, things need smoothing for you.
Try and do as others here have said directly or indirectly, and that is, do nothing that is going to give you more worry.
With luck your DH will be a little stronger by Christmas and you can spend time cosseting you and him.
You will both need the peace and a calm, quiet time.
{{{Hugs}}} to you for even contemplating taking anything else on right now.
Then later Evie can come and work her magic and give you both a real {{{hug}}}

Oh Gillybob, I don’t know your situation, but you sound very sad and low.

Christmas isn’t the be all and end all, it will soon be over, let someone else stress about it for once, and be kind to yourself.

I am not up to speed on your situation gilly, but if things are difficult for you maybe you should let another family member take on Christmas this year. You could join in as much or little as you felt able when the time comes.

Yes - life can be a pile of manure at times and I am sorry that it is like this for you at present.

Don’t worry.
Christmas will come and go even without your input this year. Your daughter will make sure Evie doesn’t miss out and, relax, it is still 6 weeks away.
One of the most memorable Christmases I had (and not in a bad way) was when Paw had been transferred to London after 4 weeks in hospital up here, a perforated bowel, surgery which went badly and a diagnosis of lymphoma.
Life was pretty sh*t but his course of treatment was decided, D and her BF of the time (now SIL) persuaded to have their Australian holiday after all, where he proposed to her. I simply ignored Christmas preps here, cooked a venison casserole, put the dog in kennels on Christmas Eve and drove to London to camp out in DD3’s flat. On Christmas morning we (other 2DDs , sisters in law and nephew) all went over to the Royal Free with smoked salmon sandwiches for Paw, spent the afternoon with him then went back to the flat for the casserole. On Boxing Day the hospital said he could come home until his chemo was due to start so I brought him back.
No tree, no cards, no turkey, no queuing at the supermarket, no presents, just glad he was alive and that the future although he had no work, no pension and no income was no longer as bleak. That was 2008 - so 11 years ago.
Christmas is not about the ?, ?, ? its having those you love with you. Keep faith that he will be home with you by then

Yes, it is. Christmas is absolutely not your responsibility this year and something new and different will emerge. You have more than enough to cope with!

Well if I was in your shoes Gillybob I must admit I’d be expecting someone (daughter, sister ?) to take the strain this year - it’s not as if they’re unaware of your predicament is it?

Also, being hopeful of another 4 weeks upturn in DH health might put a different complexion on things by then so take your time before making that decision x