To move or stay put...

Our DC are over 100 miles away but we have really good friends here so will not be moving. I love seeing the DGC and DC but they lead busy lives at a different pace to us. They could not be my only friends. I sometimes envy people who have lived all their lives in one place and have family around but they have not had the experiences we have had.
This is a decision only you can make.

If you do make the move back to near the family do choose your future home very carefully. My friend sold up and moved to the same tiny village in Devon as her daughter and grandchildren. The children are now in their teens and spend a lot of time with their dad in another town. Her daughter has a new relationship and is away most weekends. My friend feels abandoned especially as her health is fading and she feels very isolated.

So do find somewhere with activities and facilities, such as doctors, library, shops nearby where you can make your new life and see your family. Best of luck.

I totally understand the drive to be closer to your family but only you and your husband/partner can decide what’s right for you both. I’m sorry, lots of questions. How often do you all see each other now? You say ‘my daughters’, does that mean they aren’t your husbands children? What does he think about it? If you are both open to a move then I suggest a family discussion, get everyone’s thoughts and yes, check your daughters known future plans in awareness that life happens and they may need to move area themselves at some point. Don’t rush, involve everyone and spend as much time as you can in all seasons in the proposed new area then make your decision.

Daughters and 3 Granddaughters you wouldn't see me for dust ! Family are priceless, even if you don't live on their doorstep you could be closer and see them a lot more regularly without having to stay overnight.

no contest, move to about 30-50 miles away from them, close enough but far enough. Move while there are two of you and while you are fit and able. Expect that they could move in the future, so be very careful about your location, shops and buses and a friendly community. We moved to be halfway between dds and never for a moment regretted it. A potential move should also involve you looking ahead, for yourself, for when older, perhaps one of you widowed

Did you live in that area before you moved to EA?
If so you will have friends and contacts that would make the move easier.
I’m presuming that you get on well with your family and you would all like to spend more time together. I live close to one DD and see GC frequently, sometimes just for an hour. He’s part of our life, not just a visitor.
As a child we visited our grandparents. It was lovely but a bit remote. Lots of GParents don’t have a choice but you do. I would go.
Just one more question, would they be moving at any point?

If you are considering it then you are clearly not relishing being a 'long distance Nannie' and perhaps it is the thing to do. But why not discuss it with your daughters and your OH and see what they think?

Gosh, what a hard decision. Can you start by doing some long weekends in the area to see if you’d even like being there again? As you know, living there will be different from visiting. Your families will have their own schedules

Only you can decide what's right for you but I have chosen to be near my children and grandchildren. I want to be close by and see them often. For me that is the most important thing.