Good Morning Sunday

MacMillan nurses ( angels ) can give some helpful advice on all subjects Gilly. There are usually one or two who are based at hospitals and if you can ask to speak to one they will offer all kinds of advice at times like this.

gilly -Apart from Citizens Advice, what about your local Traders Association, local business groups - could they suggest help?

gilly - We all are standing right beside you and we all wish there was something positive we could do to help you through this awful and heartbreaking time. Vent away no matter what, we are listening. Try and keep your strength up you must remember to look after yourself. Sending big hugs to you.

I wish one of us lot could win the lottery and give a huge sum to gillybob

She has enough on her plate without having to worry about the business and a mortgage.

No wonder you feel overwhelmed gilly

As wise EV says - one day at a time. Deal with each day as it comes and don’t think any further ahead than that.

kittylester had a nice idea - perhaps you could spend an hour or two with Evie and have a cuddle and a cry.

Good morning from sunny Tenerife. Thinking of gillybob. Hope everyone has a lovely Sunday x

Would the local Chamber of Commrrce be able to help?

Hello all,

My first post on here, so forgive any novice mistakes. I have just read some of the posts and get the feeling that everyone on here is a friendly group.
So just want to ask is there anyone, who like me, has a husband in an Alzheimer's Care Home. I find life a bit lonely without him but know he is in the best place. I would love to hear from anyone who might be in the same position to just to share experiences with.

Good morning from a bright South Yorkshire.

GG13, I do hope your little GS is much improved today, bless him.

gilly, I'm so sorry to read of the latest developments. As others say, practical advice is what you need now, and citizens advice may be a start. Also your GP - they have access to lots of support and guidance that they can point you to. Your own well being is paramount. Sending hugs and best wishes. ?

GrannyGravy I too am sorry to hear your tiny GS has been in hospital. I hope he comes out today.

Susan I hope your DH is recovering well.

geminigran, welcome!

I suggest you start a whole new thread about husbands in Nursing homes. We have a few members who are in a similar position.

gilly, is your dh the father of your daughter? If so, she might welcome the chance to spend time with her dad.

Continuing to send you my love Gilly and if you ever need a place to stay, we have a spare room!

Sending??to Gillybobs xxx

Dearest Gilly, I am not a poster - but I have been following your posts for some time with much concern. CAB for certain to get them to talk to your mortgage company and get deferred terms agreed. Re the business if you have an accountant ask them for help, if not try the local chamber of commerce if they know anyone who could step in and run the business for you or the Rotary - they are run by local business people and could well offer interim help. In the meantime much love.

I am new to this daily thread, and don't know the back stories of the lovely people who post on it. But I can see from the week I have been following it that Gillybob is having a terrible time and feels completely overwhelmed and very alone. Many posters seem to be very close to her which is lovely; do any of you live in her area? Could any of you befriend her in real life and give her some much needed support? Here's hoping that something positive happens to give her some relief from all the bad news.

Welcome Curlywurly and Geminigran This thread is full of friendship and support.

Thank you all for your kind wishes for our GS, he is so young but receiving excellent care, will let you know when he is home.

I can't really add any more to the above advice, gilly and I'm sure your mind is going into pressure overload trying to deal with emotional and practical issues at the same time.

So unfair that you have so much on your plate while trying to cope with your DH's illness.

Sending love xx

Dear gillybob. Much good advice and great practical suggestions from Hermia46. No one has mentioned seeking a listening ear from the hospital chaplain. You do not have to be a “believer” to approach him/her who will have heard it all before and should also have some practical advice and contacts. There may be a Pastoral Care department too. ?

Just popped back to let you know that our GS is on his way home, we are all relieved and extremely grateful to the staff at our local hospital.

How lovely grannygravy13 I’m sure you’re all relieved! Now we need good news from gillybob x

Oh lovely news. You must be so relieved and happy and dying for a cuddle!

Great news GG.

Oh dear gillybob what a dreadful day you had yesterday.
Your dad, who should have been a source of comfort for you just made it all harder. So sorry the doctor didn't have better news for you.

I think the time has come now for you to concentrate on yourself and think about what is best for you for the future.

Obviously your husband is still your first concern, and of course you hope he will make a good recovery, but nevertheless I can well understand how finances are a real worry to you.

Building societies are usually sympathetic in situations like yours and often offer a mortgage 'holiday' , likewise whoever the debt on the house is with may do something similar if you contact them and explain the situation. The important thing is to keep in touch with them, and keep them up to date with the situation.

Regarding your business, as I have said before, could someone experienced be put in to manage and run the business for the time being ? It is your livelihood, yours and your husband's and if you can keep it ticking over to provide some much needed income, well that would be one less thing to worry about.

Meanwhile I do hope your family is supporting you in all this. You do so much for them, but now it is you who needs looking after. You are their mum in a desperate situation, so I hope that help is there for you.

Hope you get a better night's sleep tonight, but it is so hard to shut our minds off at times, isn't it?

Very best wishes to you.

Hear, hear JE

Notices that Gilly’s father, who can’t do his own shopping, managed to turn up at the hospital in order not to be any help at all. She deserves so much better!

The other side of that may be that Gilly's elderly father, worried about his daughter, thought that he should be at the hospital, supporting his daughter.

He may not have got it right, and made things worse, but we don't know the whole story.