Xmas gifts

Oh SallyB, that's tricky isn't it? I had a similar situation not with GC but with my sister in law who indulged in competitive present giving, putting me - with so much less money - in a very difficult position. I solved it by finally persuading her that we'd reached the age when it was no longer necessary to give each other presents.
However, as far as your GC are concerned, young kids are happy with a cardboard box I'm told! Don't try and compete with other GPs, it sounds as though your GCs are getting too much stuff in fact. Fill a bag for each of them with loads of little things wrapped enticingly: toys, puzzles, books, coloured pencils, sweeties, the list is endless. Think consumable and compostable! Take the moral high ground! And don't ever feel guilty, care and love are the best presents.

I have never worried about the value of presents for any of mine they are all treated equally I usually spend about £20 on each (8 of them 1yr-29yrs) handmade gifts have always been special for them and have been kept lovingly for years.
I certainly don't think about what other GPs are buying let them get on with it the children will enjoy any gifts that they receive I'm sure so please don't worry.

Can you make something with them so give them a fun Xmas experience. We take foster son to paint a Xmas bauble every year and he has such fun deciding what to paint on his bauble each year. I also paint one every year for both of my dgc and my dd loves them. When they leave home they will have a full set each. Could you be the Nanny who makes delicious Xmas biscuits and ices with them? When I recall my childhood Xmas' I don't really remember many gifts I got but I do recall making and icing the Xmas biscuits with my Auntie every year and making gift tags out of old Xmas cards and she let me use her pinking shears.

You shouldn't feel guilty if you can't afford things. It sounds like the other grandparents go overboard - you mustn't feel inferior if you can't do the same.
It's only human nature to compare ourselves to others but it only makes us feel bad, doesn't it?
You can't buy love.