I am just wrecked

Luckygirl - Petra is right, I am sure. You have been keeping going on adrenaline and now your body and mind need rest and time to catch up. It is to be expected, so please don't beat yourself up about it - you have done more than most people could have managed. Be kind to yourself. And if anyone else can help you, then let them be kind to you too. But above all, be kind to yourself. You need it, and you deserve it.

You have been under tremendous stress but now your DH is comfortably settled, happy and being well cared for.

Being under constant stress is exhausting but at the time you don't give in to the exhaustion - now you can and your body is reacting to it. Now is the time to take care of yourself

It all must indeed have been one hell of a shock to your system Luckygirl. You have been amazing you know.

I would say, don't fight the feeling of exhaustion now. Just go with it for a while. Get as much rest as you possibly can. Yes, getting out is good, but don't push yourself too much. Just wait awhile for it to pass.

Just quietly try to look after you now.

All the very best to you.

Luckygirl

Lucky
As a Dr once said to me: your tank is empty. You have been running on adrenaline. The only cure is rest
Just the same as you. Your tank is empty ? There is no magic potion, just rest. Please take care of yourself, you have managed the unimaginable for so long it's no wonder you feel as you do. ??

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Just to add, I appreciate that there will be days when even getting up, let alone leaving the house will be tough, if you do have a green space, a park , woods, forest within reasonable distance, go there, walk and howl, shout, scream at the sky/trees whatever, or just sit and breathe, you never know, it could give you a moment's relief.

Luckygirlwe underestimate the physical toll that emotional stress and anxiety can have.

You must try and give yourself time to adjust; it will take time to get used to your DH not being there with you.

I remember how trying it was when my step dad had to go into a nursing home full time, sorting out the financial responsibilities but you'll get there in the end.

I agree with Namsnanny "go with the flow". If you need to sleep; sleep. If you need to cry; cry. There's no right or wrong or rule book.

Look after yourself.

The stress you suffered while you were looking after your husband at home will of had more of an effect on you than you realised at the time. Allow yourself time to recover, knowing he is happy (good to hear) will help to some degree. It's only been a few weeks, don't push yourself too much.

If only the powers that be would get their act together and finally sort out finance etc you would be able to fully relax.

Oh dear. I'm so sorry to hear this. I don't suppose it helps that you already know this is a sort of backlash /reaction to the desperately stressful time you've had with your DH.
I'm sure that wiser and more experienced Grans will have some suggestions for you but maybe a tincture of time and some TLC would help. I hope you're feeling a bit brighter soon. You know that a lot of us here care about you ?

It will take time, take care.

xxx

You have so much to adjust to, take each hour as it comes if you can.

Luckygirl … I hope you don't mind me contributing, as I know you have lots of people who know you well on gn.

Frankly, go with the flow. Don't stress yourself about feeling sad or tired.

I would encourage you to sleep when ever you want to. Or do what ever you want to, if you were my sister.

Take care