Help! I need menopause advice....

I'm glad you've arranged to see your GP. Be assertive if you don't think they're taking you seriously, but I'm sure when you tell them about your GM they will do.

Perhaps you could come back and tell us how you got on.

Good luck

Good luck*hellsbells*. Sounds like the GP should take you seriously.

Hi Smileless2012, thank you so much for responding, it's really kind of you to take the time.

My doctor doesn't know of my GM's illness, I've booked an appointment and will definitely tell her then. Hopefully, I'm the 'worried well', but I can't seem to get to the bottom of what's going on with me.

I find it can be a frustrating experience visiting the doctor - it seems that unless you look like death, wear your pyjamas to the surgery and look like you haven't washed your hair for a week you don't get taken very seriously...I tick the 'overweight menopausal woman' box, so everything is apparently cured by weight loss and depression medication!

Thank you for listening to my woes - very much appreciated. (thanks) (thanks)

I noticed I was feeling more tired and a bit clumsy and put that down to the menopause but no problems with painful joints and bones hellsbells.

Does you GP know about your GM's condition? If you haven't done so already, can you ask to be specifically tested
for multiple myeloma?

I'm sorry I have no real advice or information for you, but I didn't want to not respond.

It seems to me that you need to have your fears taken seriously and be tested asap. The symptoms you've described can be experienced due to stress and you do, understandably, come across as very worried.

IMO you need to see your GP, describe how you feel and also how your GM was 'fobbed off' long before she was given a diagnosis, so shortly before her death.

I wish you well.