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Is being quiet and sensitive a good thing?

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lovebeigecardigans1955 Sun 06-Oct-19 16:32:19

My first response was, "No, it jolly well isn't" as I've been quiet all my life and feel that it lays you open to being walked over, ignored and taken for granted.
However, I'm sure that we are appreciated by others when they need to talk about a problem as we are good listeners. As long as you learn to stick up for yourself and gain confidence as you go through life it can be a good thing.
The opposite - insensitive loud types tend to be unpopular, don't you find? They're probably dying inside as they try to hide their insecurities iykwim. Don't beat yourself up.

ineedamum Sun 06-Oct-19 16:25:34

Thanks, I've had a tough time in work due to bullying and ostracism which has been going on for a year. I have raised the issues many, many times, and been told I'm the problem etc etc.

Witnesses have come forward and the truth has been revealed and I've had an apology.

However, it has dented my confidence and self esteem so thank you for your kind words x

Smileless2012 Sun 06-Oct-19 16:18:43

It isn't a bad thing ineedamum but if it prevents you from standing up for yourself when you need too, it can be I suppose for you.

Being quiet can enable you to be sensitive to the needs of others as you can listen to what they're saying.

Better to be quiet and sensitive than the opposite IMO so don't beat yourself up for being who you areflowers.

Harris27 Sun 06-Oct-19 16:15:30

Well I’ve been described as this but I am a very private person and don’t tell people too much about my self as I respect my privacy.

ineedamum Sun 06-Oct-19 16:12:30

Is being quiet and sensitive a good thing? I was told that I am this and as I'm going through a tough time I have been beating myself up over it