Such a bad day - just a weepy heap

Nothing to add, but thinking of you both.

So Sorry

Lucky how hard it must be for you. As others have said you will both have a better quality of life if your DH goes into care. You have done your best to keep him at home but he needs professional help now. It is the safest thing for both of you. I found it hard when my parents went into care but in the following 2 years I would visit and enjoy seeing them again rather than being wiped out by caring for them.

Lucky so difficult, but you need to protect your own health so that when he is in care you are able to visit regularly. You will still be part of his life and as he will be in his own room, you can make it a home from home for him.

So sorry Luckygirl, just take one day at a time and treasure the time with him. x

Oh poor you, Luckygirl, you must be so emotionally drained you don't have any positive thoughts left.

Good that your OH is coming to terms with the situation but heartbreaking for you to hear his own thoughts put into words.

I suppose all you can do is try to reassure him that even though he won't be living at home he will still have many treasured moments with you which will be all the more special because you won't be so stressed and exhausted.

Being a weepy heap is normal in such circumstances and probably a good thing because nobody wants to be at rock bottom so your 'normal self' will step in and take care of you when you're ready.

Thinking of you.

I don’t often post but felt so sorry for you on reading your post Luckygirl. Just wanted to send you some loving thoughts,I will keep you in my prayers and hope you find some peace of mind and strength to cope with your difficult situation.x

Oh Luckygirl what a terrible situation for you to be in, I'm so very sorry.

Have you found somewhere suitable for him to go?

When my step father's vascular dementia was getting to the point where we knew he would have to go into full time residential care, we arranged for him to go one day a week for a couple of weeks and then for two.

We did feel that that helped him to accept the change when he needed to be there full time. Not knowing what your OH's problems are, I don't know if that would make it easier for him and you too.

I cannot begin to imagine how heartbreaking this must be for you but if even with live-in assistance his care is becoming more than you can handle, for his sake and your own it seems you may have no choice.

Oh lucky I have watched you on this so sad journey and read your struggles, your good times and bad. This is yet the next inevitable step which none of us ever want. You will climb up out of your misery but your family really are your best support. They can hold you and look into your eyes to know how you are feeling.

Oh Luckygirl. What can anyone say? That is so heartbreaking.

Love to you. x

So sorry to hear this, Luckygirl. Life can be so incredibly hard at times.

Oh Luckygirl..that is so sad for you.... sending love and a hug....?