Suggestions please

I have given a rose bush to someone whose husband hd passed away - it was called something like "happy memories" (sorry, I can't remember exactly what) She planted it in the garden and says she thinks of him every time it flowers. Perhaps you can find one with a name that recalls your friend?

have a look at the website 'notanotherbunchofflowers.com' It is a brilliant site founded by a cancer sufferer who was not allowed flowers while in hospital. The site has presents for all eventualities.

I like the idea of a shrub for daughter and husband to plant in their gardens. Perhaps they might like to buy a rose bush or a tree. You could buy UK vouchers online.

what about planting something in your garden too. I cant think of the name but its Australian and got yellow flowers.. wonderful yellow flowers to brighten up a grey day..

maybe a commemorative candle or a rose bush/ for the garden. .or her favourite charity...prayers and blessings to you and your friend.

Thanks for your suggestions. I will send a letter but I also like the idea of a tree in a wood and will look into that. A donation to a charity is also an option that I will look into more.

In Northern Ireland death notices are usually inserted in the local newspaper with a charity specified if that's the family's wish, and you can check online. I don't know if it's the same in England.
I think a letter sharing memories is a lovely idea which I know is always appreciated.
Condolences on losing your dear friend.

What about planting something that flowers just now in your own garden , so every year you can send them a letter and a photo of 'her' flowering plant ,on her anniversary ?

Woodland trust have a in memoriam section where you can buy a tree in a wood. A good legacy.

I'm with Jane10 on this one - a letter to each of them with fond reminiscences about your dear friend would be unique and much appreciated.

If you don't go to the funeral you may be able to honour her memory in Australia. I'm thinking of the "light up a life" opportunities we have here where individual lights on a public/hospice Christmas tree can be dedicated to a loved one. There are similar schemes involving plants/floral displays in local parks, but you'll know what is available where you are.

Condolences to you on your loss.

What a nice friend you are. I know its a cliche but I don't think there's a substitute for a heartfelt letter. It's something lasting and can be looked at in years to come. I know I derive much pleasure and comfort from re reading letters sent after my Dad died.
You sound like you have many happy memories of your friend. How about sharing them with the bereaved family. Sounds like they've done well in keeping you up to date with everything. A sad time for you all.
Flowers are nice too of course. Send an arrangement to your friends home? Not for the funeral but just to brighten the place up. They're sure to have people dropping in.
Anyway, these are just my thoughts. Please accept my condolences on the loss if your old friend.

Maybe there is a charity that they support which you could donate to in memory of your friend?