How soon did you see your grandchild and where?

You're more patient than I could be FlyingSolo. But I can see where you're coming from. Hope situation improves soon.

Flying that’s so sad but your son has had so little contact with you even before the baby that it will be hard to forge a close relationship with them now.
Why ever haven’t you talked to your son about it?
Some new grandparents expect to be at the hospital when the baby’s born. New parents should be left to decide who visits and when.
Grandparents have no “right” to visit but should offer help and presents and love.

Gonegirl, I'm trying not to rock the boat. The whole situation is very unpredictable in lots of ways.

GoodMama, it depended, wasn't a regular pattern. She was pregnant most of the time. And he'd come when he needed help with you name it.

FlyingSolo, how often did you see the young couple before they had a baby?

Speak to your son direct. Tell him what you think of the situation. It sounds as if you have nothing to lose.

Sorry if that sounds cruel.

Whaaat?! That's just odd.

I have never been invited to their home ever so I can't possibly just turn up.

I would have had a few words. Strong words. Selfish blighters.

I have no advice. I would turn my back on them.

How does a family relationship get this bad?

for you Flyingsolo.

Do you feel so unwelcome that you can’t go to visit with a present for the baby and the mum now the baby is five weeks or more, could they be thinking why isn’t mum interested (just a thought)
yes I think I would have caught a later train to meet him (if that were possible)
No I don’t think it’s fair at all and incredibly hurtful that you found out about his birth through fb but that must be down to your son surely have you fell out with him over the girlfriend ?
Although I didn’t get to see any of my grandkids very early (3 weeks was the earliest) because they were all born overseas I was kept in close contact and rung the minute ‘it happened’ and indeed my son phoned me to tell me about my first grandchild’s birth what was nearly a day prior as she was born in NZ and he said ‘you have a granddaughter born on the 7th’ and me being taken aback and brain dead said ‘but it’s only the 6th’
I hope this will ease out for you and you get to be involved with your new baby lad

We were very lucky and met both our granddaughter and grandson the day they were born as did the paternal grandparents.
I too feel sorry for how you have been treated Flyingsolo?

I saw my granddaughters two days after they were born at the hospital. Daughter and SIL wanted the first day after the birth to themselves . Both grandparents and aunts and uncle from both families took it on turns to see the babies o the same day. They came home from hospital the day after

I too was very lucky and met my sons 3 children later the day they were born . I was fortunate enough to be at the birth of my DD’s baby so saw her within seconds . I really can’t understand why the mothers of sons are often treat so badly . It’s like they are made to feel like outsiders . There is NO WAY I would have agreed to meet any of my DGC at a train station . I’m so sorry for you FlyingSolo

Have you sent a new baby card to the parents? They are probably so wrapped up in their baby, they haven't considered what it's doing to you. Sorry for your situation.

CrazyH, families seem so difficult now, don't they? So many people seem to have so many family problems.

Joyfulnanna, not been invited so can't do that.

Life seems so unfair sometimes.
I have been hurt so many times in the past, that these days I just go with the flow. I have 3 AC, married with children, and they are close to their in-laws. I think I know where I stand in the pecking order.

Yeah that's really hurtful. I think you should go round with some gifts and see your baby GC.

Marilla, my son and I were close until he met this young girl last year. I have met the other grandma just the once.

FlyingSolo, have you had a difficult relationship with either your son or his partner in the past?
Do you know the other grandmother?

Dgc 1, not until day 3, but if we hadn't been away at a family wedding that weekend, it might have been sooner.
Dgc 2, born during the night and we saw her in the morning, when we took her 'big' brother (19 months old) home after he'd spent the night at ours.
Dgc 3, first child of our other son, day 2, when Mum and baby were still in hospital following a C-section. DS couldn't wait to introduce us to their new arrival!

I think I have been very lucky. I am happy to go along with whatever my sons and their wives want (my DiLs are both lovely), but they are all generally very considerate.

Sodapop, I was only away a few days, I have been home a week now already.

Marilla, they wouldn't have even been bringing the baby to me, they were offering to bring the baby to the train station!

FB does seem to cause problems doesn't it. That seems to be the preferred method of communication for a lot of younger people but not so much for us.
It does seem a little odd to introduce you to the new baby in this way Flyingsolo but maybe you can meet up properly after your holiday. Don't get too upset about this, things hopefully will improve later.

I too was fortunate enough to see my granddaughter a few hours after she was born. That's very hurtful mosaic warts