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Incompatible friends

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sodapop Thu 18-Jul-19 20:42:36

That sounds just about right Terribull leaves options for the visitor.

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TerriBull Thu 18-Jul-19 17:08:35

I'd say "I tend to go to bed at this time because that's what suits me, but please don't feel you have to follow suit, just follow your normal routine, sorry I can't keep late hours any more" We've had friends to stay in the past and once when we had a full on day with an early start, late afternoon my friend said "would you mind if I had a couple of hours sleep", before we go out tonight, it certainly wasn't a problem to me.

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fizzers Thu 18-Jul-19 16:44:41

There's no reason why you should stay up with her, am sure a compromise could be reached, and she could stay up on her own!

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annep1 Thu 18-Jul-19 16:43:28

I'm afraid I would have to go to bed early. Just explain you can't stay up late and that you will be quiet in the morning so as not to disturb her. Hopefully she will take the hint and be quiet for you.

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Sara65 Thu 18-Jul-19 16:42:34

Goodness, if I’m awake at 9.00pm I’m doing well, I couldn’t do it

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Esther1 Thu 18-Jul-19 16:37:34

Just compromise a bit and meet in the middle.

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NannyJan53 Thu 18-Jul-19 16:35:50

Your house, your rules! If I stayed at friends house, I would fit in with their timetable,.

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lovebeigecardigans1955 Thu 18-Jul-19 16:35:28

Could you say, "We keep early hours in the countryside," and see how she responds?
Maybe add, "Life is very much quieter here."

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watermeadow Thu 18-Jul-19 16:30:27

An old friend wants to come and visit. We meet rarely as far apart but also because our lifestyles are poles apart.
Friend lives in a big city and has a busy political and social life. I live in a small country town where nothing ever happens.
The worst thing is that she never goes to bed before 1am, hours after my bedtime and I wake up at 5ish.
So should I stay up with her, and feel like a zombie all day, or expect her to stick to my times? Last time I stayed with her we didn’t get to bed until 3.

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