My Birthday and I don't like any fuss.

I'm the same with birthdays. It was mine on Saturday and I had a lovely morning with my GD, then sat in the sun reading and drinking prosecco! My OH went out with his colleagues and that didn't bother me one iota. I love peace and quiet. Cancerians btw are loyal, romantic and generous x

Personally I would love a little bit of fuss on my birthday. I was 33 before anyone even got me a cake and that was when I was a volunteer at a charity as a thank you for my time. I have unfortunately been ill on my last two special birthdays not that DH who has depression had arranged anything. I was an only child and unfortunately have no children and no extended family close by. I always feel a sadness come over me as all my friends have celebrations even for a normal birthday which kind of rubs it in. I just now try and think it is only one day and I buy a bottle of champagne and have a takeaway. Happy birthday to all Cancerians.x

I hate being reminded I am another year older ☹️ However I don’t mind doing something enjoyable but don’t want it marked as a birthday celebration. Being born in 1st January makes it difficult to avoid ?

I understand how you feel. I tend to think of my mother on my birthday more so as I get older.

Lol, I thought I was the strange one, I hate birthdays too,, so relate to your post.

Happy Birthday Grannyhaggis . I had the most horrendous bday last year due to my cantankerous, acussatory older son. I hope this year will be better, but I'm not putting any money on it. If I had a partner, I would probably go away somewhere. But being on my own it's difficult. Anyway, have as lovely a day as possible.

It’s a conundrum for me. I really look forward to my birthday and then on the day I’m as flat as a pancake and hate the fuss. I’m sure it all stems from an incident when I was around 10 so I’ve had plenty of time to get over it!

Be thankful your birthday is being celebrated! Mine is also today and all I've had are messages from GS and DS, from DH.....zilch. Not even a spoken Happy Birthday and he wonders why I'm not in a good mood. Am off for a long walk by the river to see if that'll help me feel less tearful.

I hate them too but it isn't a problem because virtually no-one knows when it is. Even my children don't know so the day passes as normal and is soon history.

Another Cancerian here, so not long to go!
Phew! Thank goodness that's a non sequitur;
As another long-time Cancerian you had me worried for a moment!

I was so touched this year my 76th Birthday I had over 100 folk sending me messages
I forgot just how many kind friends I have

I’m just glad each year that I’ve made it through the last twelve months!

Hope you have a lovely day, that is perfect for you JonesKpj000

Happy birthday Grannybags. I feel the same way. I wonder if it comes from there being not much fuss on my childhood birthdays. Anyway, I’m 60 in a couple of weeks. I don’t want to be 60 LOL! I don’t want any fuss, so hubby and I are just going out for the day alone, to Holy Island if the weather is decent.

Happy Birthday for yesterday, just enjoy doing it your way. I'm a Cancerian too and don't like all the fuss either.

Another Cancerian here, so not long to go! All of our birthdays fall within three weeks of each other so we go out for a meal sometime around then. I’m with NanKate though and like to see my DD and DGD who will bring me some goodies and a balloon.
I’m looking forward to next year already as I will get my delayed pension ...!

I also don’t like celebrating. I think there are different reasons for this. If you didn’t have positive experiences of it as a child, in some context, it can, even subconsciously, affect things in adulthood. Or, some people worry about ageing. Or, some people don’t want to be the centre of attention and just prefer a more ordinary, low key day. I think I’m all of those!?But Anyway, its your day and whatever you do, is absolutely your decision...and that’s what makes it special. Happy Birthday!?

I haven't really celebrated my birthday since my Dad died just before my 40th.I always tell the kids not to buy presents and I'm happy with homemade cards from the wee ones .My daughter and son sneakily invited us to my GD's 12th birthday at a local restaurant ,her birthday is 2 days before mine .The cake was half and half each and there were presents they had all got together and painted miniature portraits of themselves and had them mounted together and framed.I cried .It meant so much more than expensive things I didn't need or really want .They have been warned though that this is a one off and no party next year

Don't celebrate it then. Don't acknowledge texts etc. Just delete them. I usually go away for 2 or 3 days and spend mine on my own.

Just wanted to mention - when a special friend celebrated her 90th birthday she had an Open Weekend where she invited friends and family (some of whom live abroad) to visit her. She made sure that she had lots of snack foods, drinks and so on available, and she had a lovely time spread over 2 days, with no "big" event (which suited her just fine). She said that she was able to talk to lots of people individually rather than feeling completely overwhelmed and missing the chance to talk to those she didn't see very often.

My husband is exactly the same and we usually plan to be away on holiday for his birthday. He loves waking up in a different place and just celebrating it quietly with me - a trip out to somewhere different during the day, and then a special meal in the evening.

Yes I feel the same optimist hate being the centre of attention. It’s nothing to do with adding extra 0’s, so many people would love to reach my age, 70. A lot of my friends passed away quite young, so I’ve never regretted getting older. It’s just the fuss.

Here's a picture of me on one of my birthdays grin
Blimey! Was that your 85th? Is that a railway line you were about to lie prostrate across? Good job Kiwi trains are not very frequent, but before you do, try a few of those "North of Nowhere" stubbies; an excellent brew for birthdays or whatever the occasion.
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Me too. I just don’t like a fuss. I like cards, but never get offended or upset if anyone forgets. I’m not keen on weddings either or any other celebration come to that, I guess that puts me in the miserable old sod category. ??

I prefer what my late husband called “unbirthdays”. On my 90tth my son arranged a dinner at a hotel inviting all my relatives and neighbours. I hated being the centre of attention although it was good to see my grandsons for the first time for years.