Another chance! (A lighthearted thread)

Me too icanhandthemback circumstances can hold you back, as they did me.

I'd have liked to have paid more attention to maths at school instead of remaining a numbskull, also to be more confident instead of worrying that others were better than me. All that worry was a waste of time.

If I came back, I'd hope that my Mum would realise that what I suffered from was "social anxiety." It is only recently that I have realised that it was what I suffered from as a child, young adult, etc. It is only recently that I became aware of what it was and how many people suffer from it but feel they are completely on their own. That revelation has made me realise how much I missed out by not dealing with it.

Oh, DannieRae, you’ve just about summed up my life. I think I did all the right things - bought a house before getting married, waited before having babies, worked hard, paid my dues, was faithful to my husband, etc, etc, and then just when everything seemed so happy and settled, DH walked out after 37 years of marriage. Life is so unfair sometimes.

Oh blimey my famous words .....”perhaps in my next life” does DH’s nut, as I say it often. So many places I would have loved to visit, things I would have loved to do.

In my next life I will work harder at school, get good qualifications, make a career in the caring profession doing something I would enjoy, marry for love the first time around, I will be self sufficient and not have money worries, I WILL NOT RUN A BUSINESS (sorry for shouty caps but I am shouting in my head) I will travel to interesting places and have a big garden.

And then the bubble went POP !

Wow I want to be you

We’ve always been stuck in the same area, tied by family business, I’d have liked to have moved around a lot more, loved to have lived by the seaside

I am still too cautious so wouldn't change anything ,,,,,,,,,, well nothing I am going to say on here

I’d come back as somebody famous instead of infamous ?

As girls in my day couldn't join the air cadets, my reincarnated self would become a pilot, either a RAF pilot or a commercial one.
I would be more sensible with money and then blow it all on a sports car or even, if I had been sensible enough, a private plane.

crazyH
Back in the 80s my OH worked on a pop up karma Sutra book. Absolutely hilarious ?
Bradfordlass used the word boastful so because of the way another thread disintegrated terrible, I'm not saying a word.?

Oh WOW BradfordLass - you are living the life that I wish for!! Great!!

I've had an exciting life in a modest sort of way. Great childhood and schooldays, met many well known people who weren't half as interesting as they themselves thought they were. Travelled a fair bit (not Africa or very cold climes) and lived through the best eras change-wise.
Happily married for 40 years and now happily single with benefits...sort of.
My only regret is that my children grew up. I just had the best time ever being at home with them and enjoying their company, right through to them each leaving to forge their careers. They were the saddest days of my life.

As a teenager I was always told not to rock the boat - the most adventurous thing I did was marry a man my family disapproved of! Now after over 40 years of happy marriage I am alone and perhaps now is the time to cut loose and do all the things I should have done as a teenager - it is never too late!

If i had my life over again, I would sleep with more men and learn the Kama sutra, as my ex- husband said I was boring in bed, ha ?

Pamela

I know what you mean, we all know them don’t we, the helpless little things, the women men fall over themselves to assist, yes, it would be a lot easier!

Bradfordlass love it! ✊

I did some wild things in my youth, and even now do a few I shouldn’t. These days, I always wear a cloak of respectability! ???

I'd come back more adventurous, 'a live life to the fullest' type of person.
I watch other people with more fulfilling lives and feel a certain envy.

Sometimes I think that next time I will be a woman that can’t!
Must be easier?.
Maybe boring.

Bradfordlass

You are inspirational

From the sound of things, you haven’t wasted a day

According to your definition DanniRae I spent the first half of my life being sensible and ultra moral and the rest of it, even up to the present day, being a Reckless Tart - and it's great fun

The lovers were wonderful, exciting and transient - my choice, and may be again if I get the chance.

I've done heaps of dangerous things because my philosophy became, never waste a chance or a moment

I've had many exciting jobs (I've usually had 3 jobs at a time, most of my life, not all for money) got people out of refugee camps, fought the government and won, published 2 books and written several more; had my work read on the BBC and in magazines/newspapers; written comedy scripts for TVNZ; invented things, instigated innovations, saved lives (via CPR) and I've just realised how boastful this sounds so I'll cut it short.

Suffice to say, you can cram a lot into 72+ years.

At 3:30 am today I was at the top of a mountain taking part in a sacred ceremony. Totally amazing but very cold for me old bones.

I wish I could have been more sporty, I am not good at any sport, can't swim. I would love to be able to excel at just one sport. I have recently started 10 pin bowling because my husband enjoys it and we go with a group of friends. I am even hopeless at that, I'm the person who is left until last when teams are being chosen

Having been raised in the absolutely most sensible family you can imagine, I left home at fifteen, only to become very very, insensible for several years, letting several good opportunities be lost, because I couldn’t possibly leave the man I was involved with, which did not end well !

I have been married now for over forty years, I do wonder what would have happened if I’d not been so reckless in my teens, but I may not have been any happier

No point in dwelling on what might have been

Reading your post CanadianGran with my sensible head on I totally realise that your second paragraph is true. I also know that my sensible life has brought me a long marriage and 3 sensible children (their dad is sensible too - they didn't stand a chance!) But just sometimes I wonder how it would be to be a bit more reckless...........??

Well, it might sound like fun, but I know I wouldn't stray too far off the boring but practical path.

I've worked with the type that show up at work hung over, spend all their money on payday and make the wrong choices in the lover department. Short term fun, but nothing to show for it in the end.