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Would you ask?

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Avor2 Fri 21-Jun-19 21:43:23

How can you be a horrible person? If you can't afford it and it is going to be an ongoing thing, the least she can do is help you out as you are helping her out, she is working after all. I know it is difficult to mention money, it always is, but it is a two way thing. See how you go and if it becomes a problem go from there.

Its fine if you can afford it, I know little'uns eat like sparrows (my one does anyway), or don't throw theirs away, you have it instead smile joke smile See how it goes, but good luck I am sure it will work out fine x

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sodapop Fri 21-Jun-19 21:41:20

It does depend on your own financial circumstances and the amount of care you are giving,. Wipes, nappies etc are all expensive as is extra food. If you are providing regular care then I think you should reach some agreement with the child's parents about all the extras. If the parents had to pay nursery fees the cost would be much higher.
I think any adult children expecting their parents to give regular child care should offer to cover these costs.

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Sara65 Fri 21-Jun-19 21:23:25

Personally I wouldn’t ask, but I guess it depends on your circumstances, you can feed little children quite cheaply

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Bopeep14 Fri 21-Jun-19 20:42:29

I have just been browsing mumsnet, and was reading a post entitled in laws...at boiling point.
Basically she has her child looked after by a family member for 3 days a week on one day its her in laws.
She is annoyed because they have asked her to supply everything for her child ie nappies, wipes, food etc. Most of the replies have been positive ie have some shopping delivered for them as they are providing free child care, others have said put the child in nursery another day, she has every right to be annoyed.
This has been on my mind lately as the summer holidays are approaching fast and i will have a couple of extra mouths to feed, for three meals a day would i be a horrible person to ask my daughter in law to provide a little food for the extra mouths. I am really feeling the pinch having to feed the one at the moment, even though most of it goes in the bin as he is a terrible eater. She does supply his nappies and wipes. I actually think this women needs to be grateful that she has free child care, but thats just my opinion though.

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