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NanaandGrampy Thu 20-Jun-19 09:07:28

Hello familiar faces and new ones too - come in for a chat or to share your cares !

Feelingmyage55 Tue 16-Jul-19 11:14:47

soop I am wondering how you are feeling? ?

Feelingmyage55 Tue 16-Jul-19 11:14:06

Good morning all. marydoll I am thinking about you this week. It is the combination of emotional and physical that is so exhausting. I am sure you will delegate (not sure at all). I tend not to, because then I worry whether the task has been done. I hope all goes smoothly for your clearly beloved BIL. Pencil in quiet time for Thursday and Friday?
annsixty. May I suggest you contact Head Office if the nursing home is one of a group. From (sad) experience you are more likely to achieve a discount rather than a waiver of the bill. So if they say an outright “no” as is likely, go back and work on a reduction if you have the energy. Did you go go the home to fetch items for your DH and was his room vacant for a possible return? I know you said they couldn’t meet his needs. Just looking for leverage to change the bill.
I am off to a garden centre I don’t usually get to as I am still away - this could be bad for the bank balance but I call it retail therapy. It is a gigantic garden centre and I may be there for a loooong time ?

annsixty Tue 16-Jul-19 11:11:15

I have that deep vibrant red crocosmia and it is lovely.
Only it's second year so not a huge showing yet but worth it.
I have had a long talk with the SW this morning.
How strange that the man I spoke to yesterday was able to find the report of the visit ,when I gave him date and time and would bring it to the SW attention but she said so much time had gone by and she has so many clients that she was unable to comment except that she was arranging for the MH team to get involved.
I expressed my dissatisfaction of the management of the care home and she said this would be passed on the the quality team.
I will be passing on my own thoughts now to the QCC or whatever they are called.
I now have no alternative to paying the bill as that is what the contract states but oh how cross I am.

cornergran Tue 16-Jul-19 10:17:07

Todays planned garden centre visit has been postponed as wee needed to take one of ours home after school. Not sure if I'm disappointed or relieved grin

It sound as if you need an afternoon nap greyd, maybe a comfortable chair in the shade with a nice cuppa and a 'real' piece of cake? These ultra early mornings are not fun at all.

Trying not to worry about our poorly friend, reading between the lines she is pushing herself too much and is likely to trigger yet more problems. Nothing we can do to change her, so I'm trying to convince myself that as an adult she is entitled to make her own decisions while hoping they don't backfire on all of us.

I should be cleaning. I was going to iron but the ironing board collapsed under me - apparently terminal so we'll collect a new one on the way back late afternoon. Oh well, the collapsed one has served us well, shame to see it go, it feels like an old friend.

Belated happy birthday swanny, hope you slept well.

Right, loud sighing from Mr C seems to indicate I've been sat long enough while he has carried on with cleaning the bathroom. Isn't it wonderful the message a sigh can convey hmm.

TOYA

Nannytopsy Tue 16-Jul-19 08:21:01

Greyduster I have had the same problem with Crocosmia and I am not sure if I can risk them in the new garden. Here, we garden on clay but there it is a much lighter loam. We spent an hour there yesterday, measuring up and getting to the bottom of what needs doing. As my Dad said “It makes my back ache just looking at it!” There is plenty of work in the garden and inside so DH shouldn’t struggle with nothing to do now he has retired!

grannyqueenie Tue 16-Jul-19 07:47:24

Morning all, I’ve also been awake since before dawn, in my case with a furiously itchy arm - a wee beastie got me at Harlow Carr yesterday. I’ve been taking industrial amounts of antihistamine for almost a week now, after that bee sting malarkey, but clearly my levels are still ridiculously high. Hey ho, its going to be a long day!

Now I’ll whisper this quietly so as not to offend anyone....sport does nothing for me. There, I've said it now, I do enjoy that other folk get so much pleasure from it but that’s as far as it goes. Having said that, years ago, on several occasions, we were given tickets for Wimbledon and I did enjoy that, well it would have been rude not to!

Some beautiful garden photos around in the kitchen these days, they are always lovely to see. swanny I too am woefully behind, I manage to read or post but very seldom both at the same time....where does time go? Belated birthday wishes, yes these occasions do draw us back to reflect on life and where it’s taken us. Sounds like you’re a positive person with lots to enjoy in your life, i can understand that gap you sometimes feel though. ?

Fab cake, Izabella, is there any left? Ann I’m so sorry you have the bill business to sort out. It does seem very steep considering all the circumstances. Good luck as you go into battle, if you end up having to pay it well so be it, but don’t give in with out a fight. But as I write that I realise you may just not feel you have the energy for that right now. ?

Now Greyduster and Corner, don’t you know that lurking around near plant stalls is a very dangerous business? I too find it very hard to resist and as I'm easily swayed have to studiously avoid going anywhere near our “man on the market”..... oh goody, it’s Tuesday market today. After a busy weekend with 2 grandchildren here over the weekend, we had a little jaunt to our RHS gardens yesterday. What a delight, I’m totally in awe of those who plan, plant and tend it all to ensure there is always a veritable feast of textures, colours and scents to enjoy. I’ll attach some photos, must away now. After my early start it would be rather ironic to be late for this mornings activity!! Have a good day, kitchen folk, whatever it holds for you

Greyduster Tue 16-Jul-19 05:10:54

So this is ridiculous! I have been awake since just after three when I felt as if something had bitten me on the leg. I switched on the torch on my phone but couldn’t see anything and there is no mark. So here I am, downstairs in the conservatory eating biscuits and drinking coffee, having signally failed to get back to sleep. I have watched the sun come up, had a walk round the garden in my pyjamas.......

I could do with a bit of that lovely cake, Izabella! It has a definite wow factor!

Lovely photos, Corner. I had some crocosmia in my garden but it got so out of hand I had to dig it out before it took over. It wasn’t as nice as that one though! It looks like the variety they call ‘Lucifer’.

Soop that’s rather an exotic looking specimen in your photo. My house leeks are flowering at the moment and i always think they look rather ‘alien’ too.

Nice to see you again, swanny! Happy birthday for yesterday. Don’t do too much reminiscing - I’m sure you have lots to look forward to!

Okay, I’m off to look for something else to eat. I will join you all later if missed sleep doesn’t catch up with me in the meantime!

Swanny Tue 16-Jul-19 00:22:59

Well I've got as far as page 5 in this reincarnation of soop's kitchen, after failing to find where I last posted! Welcome to the new members - you won't find a comfier place to be grin I don't know what I've been doing to be so far behind with the kitchen activities but I've missed you all dreadfully sad Today Yesterday was my birthday and after dinner out on Sunday with my beloved little family then DIL and DGS visiting after school today (DS was overseeing kitchen renovations that are running late angry ) I have been reminiscing over the last (cough) 'erm' years. DH1 and I were married nearly 53 years ago and so much has changed since then. He is on partner number ? now. I remarried briefly and mistakenly nearly 40 years ago, divorced and since then have focussed on other things/people. I've learned a lot since then but still miss the companionship of someone special. Enough - I'm getting maudlin'. TOYA to all kitcheners, you are special people flowers

cornergran Mon 15-Jul-19 21:09:47

Evening All. Just been outside deadheading (or as Littlest says beheading), lovely still evening, still warm but not stifling. I’m not sure I could be happy without a garden, tiny though ours is.

Those plants look good greyd, I’m sure they will thrive. We constantly say no more plants then manage to squeeze one in somewhere. My theory is that gardens expand to fit the available plants. smile.

Did I say hi sar? Apologies if not, think my head has been left somewhere.

Please fight that account ann, totally unreasonable although sadly there could well be some very small print that it will be alleged justifies it.

Wow izabella that cake looks wonderful, sadly no crumbs left now, probably as well for my ever expanding girth. As chocolate covered strawberries count as part of my fruit allowance I enjoyed those greyd, I also hid some for your grandson, can’t deprive him grin.

You’re doing so well with your new home panache, it’s going the right way. Take care.

Struggling to keep awake this evening so may retire with my book. The photos are from Saturday mornings pit stop at a National Trust. Sadly not my garden grin.

TOYA

Sar53 Mon 15-Jul-19 20:31:51

Thank you Soop for the welcome. Ann I know exactly where you are coming from. We had problems when my mum was taken to hospital after a fall in a care home. It was 11 years ago and she had only been there for a few days. They tried to invoice us for a months care. We refused to pay and we won in the end. Good luck.
Izabella that cake looks amazing.
I've been lost today, no tennis to watch.
TOYA

Nannyfaraway Mon 15-Jul-19 20:10:30

Good evening everyone.
Ann that's not good and it sounds a lot of money when he didn't have care or food. Hope you can get it sorted in your favour.
I'm having a messanger conversation at the moment with my youngest Daughter. To do with her job.
She's Dyspraxic. I'll have to go and concentrate on her. Might get back here later

soop Mon 15-Jul-19 17:28:01

Izabella I'm speechless. A few crumbs, eh? That is simply not fair. What a wonderful creation.

Ann* All is not lost. Stay positive. smile

Greyduster Your plants are lovely. MacSporran has been busying himself in the garden. I've been ironing. I took the following photo of one of the flower buds that caught my eye. It is a work of art.

Care home visit in the morning. Back with you lovely lot just as soon as I can.

TOYA smile moon

Izabella Mon 15-Jul-19 15:35:15

Good afternoon kitcheners. A lovely day here again. Just posting before I settle down to watch 7 Years in Tibet that my post-it note assures me is recorded via the freeview box. Meanwhile I will leave you with a picture of my contribution to this mornings coffee session. Cbocolate strawberry pound cake. There are a few crumbs left if you are quick.

Ann I hope the £ dispute resolves for you and soop that Brodie will reappear soon.

Charleygirl5 Mon 15-Jul-19 14:43:49

soop I am so sorry that Brodie has not made an appearance. Not pleasant if foxes are sniffing around your garden.

Greyduster Mon 15-Jul-19 13:47:43

They probably do this to pay for all the Brasso they polish their necks with Ann. If you have to go down, go down fighting!!

I spent part of this morning making chocolate covered strawberries to take over for GS after school. I am not sure he actually deserves them after this weekend, so I will leave some of them in the kitchen. Please help yourselves.

I have just been into the village to post a card for DS and DiL’s anniversary (the other two don’t do anniversaries, sadly) and couldn’t resist buying a couple of plants from the greengrocer. One is salvia ‘hotlips’ which I have wanted for some time but couldn’t find space for. The other is some sort of chrysanthemum type thingy (you can see how horticulturally challenged I am!!) which should, with luck, provide some interest into the autumn. So DH will have some digging to do when we get in this evening. I suppose I could do it, as my leg is much better (I don’t think it could have been a torn muscle afterwards; just a pulled one), but it keeps him off the streets ?!

It seems we have all come down off the ceiling after the weekend’s sport! By gum, it were excitin’! I don’t suppose GS will be persuaded to dig out the cricket stuff and relive the highlights with me. He likes diving about, like Ben Stokes, so you never know! I will look in later!

annsixty Mon 15-Jul-19 13:42:21

I have now been in touch with Adult Services.
They are e-mailing the SW and her line manager to get in touch with me to say what happened at the meeting with the manager at the care home and the SW.
I expect things will be forgotten and glossed over.
Cynical? Moi?
Even the paramedics said he didn’t need to go to hospital but the staff insisted.
I can hardly involve them ,dealing as they do with dozens of calla a day, every day of the week and from 4 months ago.
The bill is coppers short of £2,500 and for more than 3 weeks he needed no care or food.

soop Mon 15-Jul-19 13:37:27

Took this photo through the window of last night's tranquil sea and sky...

soop Mon 15-Jul-19 13:33:34

Charleyg Still no visit from our Brodie. We discovered a rather strange t**d on the lawn the other morning. I thought it could have been deposited by a fox. Worrying!

Ann That is what we call a major buggeration. Unjustified! You are rightly fired-up. Us lot feel likewise. You have an army of angry kitcheners waiting in the wings. flowers

Charleygirl5 Mon 15-Jul-19 13:27:34

ann have you got any proof or is it their word against yours? I agree they do have a nerve thinking you will pay up as that is the easy option. Please try to fight this injustice.

The weather here is beautiful and I have no tennis to watch but at least the washing is drying.

Tara has a new trick- she finds yesterday's knickers and uses them like a ball. The first time they were on the stairs and I thought they had fallen out of the pile of washing I was carrying. The second time the next pair were outside the bathroom door when I went to the loo during the night. They were not there earlier so it had to be madam! Luckily it has not happened when anybody was visiting - I do not usually display my underwear, washed or not.
TOYA

soop Mon 15-Jul-19 13:24:33

Oh, tanith, I'm sorry that I didn't have some of your apple scone with creamy butter during that final. I needn't sustenanace during that final.

Bellasnana So near...and yet...hmm. I could feel Roger's aching disappointment. Both played an amazing game. It could not have been closer. There were moments when I turned away during the longer rallies. A fabulous fortninght of tennis. Who won the mixed doubles? I couldn't find the match on our television.

Hello again, Sar53 It's good to have your company.

annodomini Mon 15-Jul-19 13:11:39

What a nerve! Go get'em, Ann. You'll have the kitchen behind you.

annsixty Mon 15-Jul-19 12:44:39

Good afternoon all and a lovely day it is here in Stockport.
It is a pity my mood doesn't match the weather today.
I have just received the final account from my H's care home.
I t includes 3 weeks and 3 days when he was in hospital before he died.
Now it may seem fair to them, they say that they were keepimg his room for his return.
They had called me into the office on March 4th to tell me that they could no longer meet his needs.
When he had a fall lesss than 2 weeks later, while Ss were trying to decide what to do, the home called for an ambulance and insisted he was taken to hospital.
It was quite clear they never had any intention of having him back.
I have told them this morning
I will arrange for the bill while he was still in residence to be paid when the estate is settled but that
I am disputing the rest of the charge.
I am trying to get hold of Adult Services, this is not always easy.
I am all fired up about this, I expect I will pay in the end but oh, how much I feel aggrieved about it.

Bellasnana Mon 15-Jul-19 11:17:17

I think I am taking Federer’s loss worse than he is! So disappointed he couldn’t quite pull it off, even though he was tantalizingly close with two Championship points. I shall now shut up about the tennis except to say it was a great two weeks watching some incredible players.

Charleygirl5 Sun 14-Jul-19 21:57:31

The tennis was really good- it was a pity somebody had to lose. I did not see it all but that was deliberate- I thought it would go to 5 sets and that is a long time to be sitting even although I was, like soop doing the umpiring which can be exhausting.

N&G although I live in London I am surrounded with greenery, too much at times like my immediate neighbours rear garden. Tara loves getting lost in it. The house is permanently rented and looks it. I keep telling the owner his house is a thorn between two roses- it is a mid terrace of three.

It sounds as though you are slowly settling in Panache. It takes time to turn it into a home especially as not all of the furniture has arrived yet.
TOYA

GrannyGravy13 Sun 14-Jul-19 21:53:50

Sar53 and England are top of their group in the Netball World Cup........all this sport on one day I am exhausted ?

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