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GrandmaKT Wed 05-Jun-19 09:37:03

We don't know that the OP doesn't have health problems preventing her from decorating. If not, I agree with what others have said, get up early, get everything out and start yourself. He will surely join in when he sees you. If he doesn't, or there isn't time to finish it, get a professional in. 5 years is long enough to wait!

Nandalot Wed 05-Jun-19 09:36:48

Get some quotes for the job. Perhaps that will give him the incentive he needs.

lemongrove Wed 05-Jun-19 09:36:24

J52 you can come here any time........for a small fee?grin

lemongrove Wed 05-Jun-19 09:35:12

I am in awe of all you wallpaper-ers out there, I will do anything else in the way of decorating, but not that.
I would give your DH an ultimatum about it, no more cooked meals until he gets going on the hall, what a disgrace,
Five years!

J52 Wed 05-Jun-19 09:32:16

I’m another one who says get on with it yourself. If you’re not confident in hanging wallpaper then paint the walls.
I’m always the one to do the decorating, I have high standards, not only in the execution of the task, but also in looking after the equipment! I struggle to even let the ‘professionals’ paint my walls! grin

Septimia Wed 05-Jun-19 09:32:12

Yes, I'd get on and make a start. I've found with my DH that it encourages him to join in - or he'll go and do something else that needs doing. Maybe yours will feel that his expertise is needed.

Or you could start work and then pretend to get into difficulties and call for help....

If you make a mess of it, can it look any worse than nothing having been done?

Good luck!

lovebeigecardigans1955 Wed 05-Jun-19 09:31:17

Could you get the pasting table out, the paper, etc and start measuring, 'sizing' and cutting? The sight of you starting might make him feel guilty and hopefully it'll spur him into action. Best of luck.

Craftycat Wed 05-Jun-19 09:31:12

I hate to say this but it will get worse when he retires!
My husband is still working but has had a spell at home between jobs & behaves exactly like this.
I have learnt to do a lot of DIY things myself & find if I ask one of the sons to come over & help it sometimes gets him to shift himself.
Don't be fooled by the stress of the job- I find that men who have a stressful job thrive on it & miss it if they gets a different role.
I would really suggest putting your foot down now or get a decorator in & give him the bill- which I did! Mind you now DH suggests I get someone in to do it.
Good luck!

Franbern Wed 05-Jun-19 09:24:50

Mmmmm....so why can't you do the wallpapering yourself? I used to all the decorating in my large Edwardian house, painting,wall-papering, tiling bathroom - even on one occasion taking down old internal wall and replacing it with plasterboard.
Even easier to do these days, with u-tube to guide you.
Five years waiting.....do not understand that

Bopeep14 Wed 05-Jun-19 09:14:10

Husband is on annual leave this week, my children organise there annual leave around him so i have no one to look after while he is at home.
We agreed we would get on with some home improvements this week while he is off.
So far we have done absolutely nothing, he stays up late every night until 3am rarely gets up until lunch time.
He does have a stressful job and I realise he needs downtime but we agreed and he promised he would at least start the jobs if not finish them.
We have been living with no wallpaper in the hallway for 5 years I got my hopes up it would get done, silly me.
We got invited to go away with friends in a caravan this week but we said no we have jobs to do at home, wish we had gone now.
Oh how I wish I could do it myself.