A day of lows. How do you cope?

How we perceive things can be so dependent on how we feel at the time.
It helps if there is somebody else at home to counsel common sense. I massively overreacted a couple of weeks ago when none of the DDs appeared to reply to a message I had sent enquiring about meeting up in London before something else we were all going to.
Cue- They didn’t want me, I was being left out blah, blah. If Paw had been here he’d have told me not to be silly!
Of course it is sad when friends move away but it is highly unlikely you are the root cause and missing the coffee meet-up seems hurtful, but hand on heart, have you never done this?
I hope tomorrow finds you back to your normal ? sunny self!

I used to get down on my hands and knees and scrub the kitchen floor!

Of course if this has been going on for a long time perhaps you should see your GP but if it is simply a bad spell, wait for it to go away

Tomorrow is another day - everything might be totally different, and if it isn't, there's always the day after!

Is this what they call catastrophising?

Ohmother

If you stop and read some of the terrible tragic stories on here, I think you’ll be grateful you’ve only got a builders quote and a missed coffee date to worry about!

Sorry it sounds a bit harsh, I know we all have down days, but look for the positives, the sun is shining, it can’t be all bad!

I usually have a quick blast of a heavy rock cd.

I read your post and was in two frames of mind Ohmother , firstly is everything really all about you? Maybe your friend didn't see your text, your best friends have a life and if moving is the right thing for them then that's the right course of action - you see my train of thought?

OR you're possibly dwelling on the changes and putting a negative spin on everything? Just because your friends are moving needed stop your friendship, retirement of colleagues might mean new employees you like even better?

I think these things can be as positive or as negative as you want to make them... Id go for the positives :-)

Oh, dear. Yes I think you do need to sleep on this. ?
You are seeing everything negatively at the moment, but there are probably good reasons for what has happened -

your friend very likely really didn’t see your text, if she’s anything like me, I don’t always hear my phone and I don’t check it all the time.

Your best friends moving miles away - perhaps it’s for work reasons or family reasons, but just think, you’ll be able to visit, and vice versa.

The quote twice as much as you were expecting? - get some more quotes so you can make comparisons. Perhaps the cost is not way off from other quotes, but if so, then you can try one of the others.

Imminent retirement of colleagues? Maybe they’ve requested it?

Yes, take some time away from these issues then come back and look again and I’m sure you won’t think things are as bleak as you first thought. ?

Blimey, tension and stress overload! You need to be rested and fit to see your way through that!
Seriously though when everything seems too much to cope with its difficult to see a way through. Sometimes writing it all down....raising a file for each (problem) or task can help.
My other thought though is than when you are a bit overwhelmed by life its so easy to just see all the negatives. Assume someone is upset with you when in fact they, themselves are having a bad time and just cannot raise a smile or engage in small talk. Its a recognised aspect of anxiety that you assume the worst , transferring your own anxieties onto someone else's response and its easy to get it very wrong.
My usual coping mechanism is to grab the dog, don walking boots and go for a walk...in the sun and surrounded by greenery things to begin to come into focus a little better and if its a really long walk....sometimes, just sometimes answers come to me. Cheer up, we all get like this.

When it all comes at once it can overwhelm you. Be kind to yourself.