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How old is too old?

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Jeanlizzie Fri 31-May-19 10:16:04

I live in a very rural area , my husband drives, but i don't, which was never a problem due to a good bus service
Since the beginning of the year we have no buses at all ( thanks council) and I'm dependant on my husband if i want to leave the house
I'm seriously considering to learn to drive but my daughter keeps telling me im too old (I'm mid 50s)
What do you lovely grans think ?

arthursfam Fri 31-May-19 16:39:20

I agree, you are not too old to learn,if I didn’t drive my whole way of life would change.Although I am older than you I had to learn to use a computer,not easy as I had never done office work, and now I am taking piano lessons again and finding it difficult but hope to get to a satisfactory standard. Consider it a challenge and go for it!

annep1 Fri 31-May-19 16:21:56

I agree with Janeainsworth. Shame on your daughter.

hellymart Fri 31-May-19 16:17:26

It's an important life skill and passing my driving test gave me a bigger thrill than any exam before or since! It means you are FREE. Main thing to remember, is to get as much practice as you can and don't, whatever you do, stop driving once you've passed your test. It's easy to lose confidence then. Keep going. If the rest of us can do it, so can you! Good luck!

Mapleleaf Fri 31-May-19 16:16:46

Another thought, if you find learning in a manual tricky, try an automatic. (Though give a manual a go first).

wildrose Fri 31-May-19 16:12:20

I passed at 47 - change in circumstances meant I either did that or travel long distances by train or coach. Have never regretted it. Go for it and good luck!

Mapleleaf Fri 31-May-19 16:01:44

Definitely not too old. Go for it.

Daisymae Fri 31-May-19 15:59:56

Hardly! Yes could easily be tootling around in your car for 30 odd years. It's really not that difficult and you don't know until you try.

SirChenjin Fri 31-May-19 15:54:24

Mid fifties??? I'm 50 and if I thought I would feel too old to do anything by 54/55 I'd be taking a long hard look at myself (and booting my DD up the backside) shock

Of course you can do it!! smile

Avor2 Fri 31-May-19 15:27:15

Never too old - go for it xx

CassieJ Fri 31-May-19 15:15:19

My dad was 52 when he took his driving test [ and passed ]. It has been a lifeline for him and my mum, now both in their 80's , and like you living in an area with poor public transport. Go for it, you will never regret learning to drive.

nightswimmer Fri 31-May-19 12:54:14

No you are not too old, go for it and the best of luck to you!

GrandmaKT Fri 31-May-19 12:19:16

I agree with everyone else! Most of us are still working in our mid fifties. How would you feel if your employer said you were too old to learn new skills? You'd be justifiably outraged, (and could sue for discrimination)!
Go for it!

Blinko Fri 31-May-19 12:19:09

Ignore your DD. Just GO FOR IT!

maddyone Fri 31-May-19 12:15:00

No, you’re not too old, go ahead and learn.

Auntieflo Fri 31-May-19 12:13:19

My mum learned to drive when she was mid 60’s, and loved it, and she was a good driver. So, go on and do it, you won’t regret it.

Allegretto Fri 31-May-19 12:10:39

I think that young people can be a bit ageist, feeling that they know more and are better at things than people over 50. I made this comment to my husband a while ago and he pointed out that we may have been the same at that age. You are absolutely not too old to learn to drive. Go for it!

janeainsworth Fri 31-May-19 12:01:51

I’m lost for words.
You should tell your DD she’s too young to drink alcohol/go on holiday by herself/wear high heels/stay out after 10pm.

Seriously I would actually be very upset if my DDs told me I was too old to do anything and I’m 70 this year.

annodomini Fri 31-May-19 11:57:59

Mid-50s! A youngster. Don't listen to your DD. What does she know? A driving licence would be a lifeline for you and enable you to join group, go out with friends and discover new interests. One piece of advice: do your learning on a non-automatic. If you learn on an automatic car, you won't be allowed (or able) to drive the stick-shift type which you might have to do in case of some emergency or other. If you do learn on a conventional vehicle, you will be licensed to drive all kinds - including electric which is the way the future is going. Good luck.

crazyH Fri 31-May-19 11:29:51

Not at all - mid 50s - you are a spring chicken. I depended on my husband to drive us everywhere. Decided to learn to drive.
I passed my driving test when I was 45. So liberating !! My husband left me a couple of years after that- we got divorced. I can't imagine what my life would have been like if I couldn't drive.Being able to drive is the best and most useful qualification I have ever had......go for it ..

Grannybags Fri 31-May-19 11:21:00

As everyone else has said - go for it!!

MamaCaz Fri 31-May-19 11:17:38

Jeanlizzie
You won't know unless you try.
Even if you decide after a lot of lessons that it's not for you, it's still worth giving it a go, isn't it?
If you don't even try, you might regret it forever. On the other hand, you might find that you are a natural and love it. smile

Googes41 Fri 31-May-19 11:10:47

Really important that you learn,I know ladies driving in their late 80’s. you risk isolation if you are ever on your own.Go for it you have 30 years of independence to go!!!

kittylester Fri 31-May-19 11:07:35

My mum was mid 60s when she passed her test. Fo for it.

Nonnie Fri 31-May-19 10:50:32

As they all said!

If you are physically able I can't see what is stopping you. If I didn't drive I would do it now and I'm older (quite a bit) than you! Go for it.

Eglantine21 Fri 31-May-19 10:30:46

Mid fifties? You’re just a spring chicken!

Of course you can learn to drive.

Book those lessons today!