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How old is too old?

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Jeanlizzie Fri 31-May-19 10:16:04

I live in a very rural area , my husband drives, but i don't, which was never a problem due to a good bus service
Since the beginning of the year we have no buses at all ( thanks council) and I'm dependant on my husband if i want to leave the house
I'm seriously considering to learn to drive but my daughter keeps telling me im too old (I'm mid 50s)
What do you lovely grans think ?

Iam64 Sat 01-Jun-19 10:00:27

Wow - how very dare your daughter suggest you're too old to learn to drive. course you aren't. Book some lessons right away. It's a real B that just when we're all being lectured about the need to not use our cars, public transport is going to hell in a handcart.
I use my car all the time to visit my children/pick the grandchildren up from school and do the shopping - oh yes and to keep in touch with friends. I'm old enough to have free bus travel but the bus routes mean I'd go three miles into town to travel 5 the other way - a journey I can do directly by car in 10 minutes .
Good luck with your lessons

Coconut Sat 01-Jun-19 09:56:33

Go Girl ???? drive !

Jaycee5 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:54:12

You have over 20 years of driving ahead of you (or of sitting at home wanting to go places that you can't get to).
When you are young, 50 sounds ancient but you know it isn't so I'm surprised that you didn't just laugh it off. You could try one or two lessons and then see how it goes. You have nothing to lose (except the money) but an awful lot to gain.
Go for it.

granessie Sat 01-Jun-19 09:51:28

I agree with the others, go girl. A word of caution though,
stay with driving instructors for practice. Family acting as support is not always good for family relations!!

Hm999 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:45:28

Go for it. Find a good instructor, recommended by someone who's a bit twitchy, so you know they don't have similar silly ideas?

Nanny41 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:42:33

Its never too late, and you are NOT too old, go for it!Good Luck and enjoy it.

SeaWatcher Sat 01-Jun-19 09:40:27

Definitely do it !

tavimama Sat 01-Jun-19 09:39:48

Absolute tosh - you are NEVER too old to learn a new skill. There are some amazing driving instructors out there - put out feelers and ask locally for recommendations, then ‘interview’ a couple to make sure you will be happy with them.

Then go for it! Think of the freedom, and independence, and fun you could be having!

Applegran Sat 01-Jun-19 09:27:23

Go ahead and learn! And as others have said, stick with it. Get as much practice between lessons as you can - with a driver who has a licence in the passenger seat. Lots of practice makes all the difference. You are young! Go for it!

polnan Sat 01-Jun-19 09:17:50

go learn! go drive... they are merely physical years..

have fun... let us know how you get on,, you will have down days, and good days

I do so hope you go!

Rosina Sat 01-Jun-19 09:14:32

Go for it jeanlizzie - you are a mere slip of a girl!
As Espee suggested, get an automatic - a joy to drive. Think of the sense of achievement and the freedom.

Venus Sat 01-Jun-19 09:10:03

I wish I was 54 again! That's young in my book!

Esspee Sat 01-Jun-19 07:22:03

You need to drive. You're a young woman. Prove your daughter wrong. (and do use an automatic car)

MrsAllboys Sat 01-Jun-19 00:31:43

My mother learned to drive when she was in her mid fifties and it was a godsend for her. She was a delightful but scatty person and failed the test a couple of times to start with but then changed to an automatic and passed with no problem. Fifties is not at all ‘old’ ...just go for it. People have a tendency to think anyone older than they are is old. I remember Mick Jagger, when in his twenties, saying he couldn’t imagine still playing in a rock band at forty
and how ghastly and pathetic that would be ..?

Day6 Fri 31-May-19 23:45:21

Jeanlizzie being a driver gives you lots of freedom and independence. You are NOT too old to learn.

See it as a challenge. Take at least ten lessons and as it gets a bit easier to handle a car you might find you enjoy it. Learning is a daunting prospect for most non-drivers, whatever their age, but see driving as another accomplishment - something you are doing for yourself.

You might feel even more unsure and regret not doing it if you leave it even longer? Go for it!

Vivvywoo Fri 31-May-19 23:14:50

My only regret in life was not learning to drive. I suffer with anxiety and thought I could never do it. At 59 encouraged by my son I started lessons in an automatic. Passed first time 5 months later a month after 60th birthday. I had a wonderful instructor who was so patient with me. Wish I had done it years ago. It has made life so much easier.

SueDonim Fri 31-May-19 22:29:32

I'm another who says you're never too old! Get those lessons booked and away you'll go. Enjoy!

FarNorth Fri 31-May-19 22:26:59

Your DD has no idea what it's like to be in your mid-50's.
She's definitely not an authority on whether you can learn things at that age, but lots of people on here are and they're telling you to give it a go!

SpringyChicken Fri 31-May-19 22:02:38

Book your lessons right away. My colleague was in her sixties when she learned and passed. Don’t be held back because of someone else’s opinions. Go girl.

hiljo Fri 31-May-19 21:36:14

I am 58. I am a driving instructor. I teach older ladies who for various reasons decide they need to learn. It does take longer than the average 17 year old but most can learn. You just need the right instructor.

mokryna Fri 31-May-19 18:11:48

Go for it, you have got at least 20+ driving years if not more! Sign on and be more independent in the future. No having to ask and hanging around waiting for people to give you lifts.

whywhywhy Fri 31-May-19 17:32:21

You are not too old, so get the lesson book today! Come on you can do it and you will be amazed at your new found freedom. Good luck! x

knickas63 Fri 31-May-19 17:26:32

I am 55 and have been considering it. I took lessons and a test 28 years ago. Failed on minors and never took it again. Would love to be more independant! Go for it!

SirChenjin Fri 31-May-19 17:00:40

Admittedly it depends where you live

You've answered your own questions there! smile

Grandma70s Fri 31-May-19 16:41:47

I never learnt to drive and have never regretted it. I am curious to know why people think it so necessary. If I want to visit friends, I get a taxi, as I would if I wanted to go shopping. My groceries are delivered. I wouldn’t take a car into town even if I could drive.

In what way would I be more free if I could drive? As it is, I am free of the cost of buying and running a car, repairs, parking hassle, MOTs, car cleaning, vehicle insurance, being driven mad by other drivers, worrying about that funny noise in the engine, depreciation and countless other things. Car owners and drivers spend a lot of time grumbling.

Admittedly it depends where you live.