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How old is too old?

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Jeanlizzie Fri 31-May-19 10:16:04

I live in a very rural area , my husband drives, but i don't, which was never a problem due to a good bus service
Since the beginning of the year we have no buses at all ( thanks council) and I'm dependant on my husband if i want to leave the house
I'm seriously considering to learn to drive but my daughter keeps telling me im too old (I'm mid 50s)
What do you lovely grans think ?

Esspee Sat 01-Jun-19 07:22:03

You need to drive. You're a young woman. Prove your daughter wrong. (and do use an automatic car)

Venus Sat 01-Jun-19 09:10:03

I wish I was 54 again! That's young in my book!

Rosina Sat 01-Jun-19 09:14:32

Go for it jeanlizzie - you are a mere slip of a girl!
As Espee suggested, get an automatic - a joy to drive. Think of the sense of achievement and the freedom.

polnan Sat 01-Jun-19 09:17:50

go learn! go drive... they are merely physical years..

have fun... let us know how you get on,, you will have down days, and good days

I do so hope you go!

Applegran Sat 01-Jun-19 09:27:23

Go ahead and learn! And as others have said, stick with it. Get as much practice between lessons as you can - with a driver who has a licence in the passenger seat. Lots of practice makes all the difference. You are young! Go for it!

tavimama Sat 01-Jun-19 09:39:48

Absolute tosh - you are NEVER too old to learn a new skill. There are some amazing driving instructors out there - put out feelers and ask locally for recommendations, then ‘interview’ a couple to make sure you will be happy with them.

Then go for it! Think of the freedom, and independence, and fun you could be having!

SeaWatcher Sat 01-Jun-19 09:40:27

Definitely do it !

Nanny41 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:42:33

Its never too late, and you are NOT too old, go for it!Good Luck and enjoy it.

Hm999 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:45:28

Go for it. Find a good instructor, recommended by someone who's a bit twitchy, so you know they don't have similar silly ideas?

granessie Sat 01-Jun-19 09:51:28

I agree with the others, go girl. A word of caution though,
stay with driving instructors for practice. Family acting as support is not always good for family relations!!

Jaycee5 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:54:12

You have over 20 years of driving ahead of you (or of sitting at home wanting to go places that you can't get to).
When you are young, 50 sounds ancient but you know it isn't so I'm surprised that you didn't just laugh it off. You could try one or two lessons and then see how it goes. You have nothing to lose (except the money) but an awful lot to gain.
Go for it.

Coconut Sat 01-Jun-19 09:56:33

Go Girl ???? drive !

Iam64 Sat 01-Jun-19 10:00:27

Wow - how very dare your daughter suggest you're too old to learn to drive. course you aren't. Book some lessons right away. It's a real B that just when we're all being lectured about the need to not use our cars, public transport is going to hell in a handcart.
I use my car all the time to visit my children/pick the grandchildren up from school and do the shopping - oh yes and to keep in touch with friends. I'm old enough to have free bus travel but the bus routes mean I'd go three miles into town to travel 5 the other way - a journey I can do directly by car in 10 minutes .
Good luck with your lessons

Redrobin51 Sat 01-Jun-19 10:00:53

I was in my mid 40's before I learnt to drive my only regret was I didn't do it sooner. My friend was widowed and it grieved her to see a perfectly serviceable car on the drive that she couldn't drive so took lessons. She was exactly the same age as you and passed first time and is an excellent driver. I had a taster 2 hour lesson to see whether I took to it and what the driving instructor thought of my chances, I too passed first time. My young brother in law's took about 4 attempts!
Then driving instructor said that people who were that bit older normally needed a few more lessons as they tended to be a bit more cautious and safety minded which he thought was a good thing. Many people find an automatic car the best as you can just concentrate on the steering. The oldest person I knew who drive for the first time was 75. Best of luck go for it and let us know how you get on.x

25Avalon Sat 01-Jun-19 10:01:40

Of course you are not too old but you certainly don't need your dd undermining your confidence before you even try. Give it a go. You have everything to gain.

Kim19 Sat 01-Jun-19 10:06:48

I'm with the vast majority here in that I believe we're never too old to try anything new. In my case I simply take longer and limit my options to a degree of common sense (yep, somewhat boring but my children are relieved!). That must have been a real body blow losing your public transport. Awful. So far I am lucky with that. Do have a go. Hopefully your husband will be there to support your attempt but - that's an interesting concept too - my husband and I seldom agreed on either driving techniques or routes chosen. Happily it was a friendly despairing joke with us and nothing more. Crazy days! I wish you well.

McGilchrist41 Sat 01-Jun-19 10:07:57

I am still driving at 78 and my friend who is still driving is 84.

Shalene777 Sat 01-Jun-19 10:11:25

My mum started driving probably late 40's. The only thing she did was learn in an automatic. She is still a good driver to this day and it gave her so much confidence and freedom. She didn't have to wait for Dad to come home anymore, she would be off.
My advice is go for it and good luck with the lessons and test.

OmaforMaya Sat 01-Jun-19 10:13:08

I was 64 years old when I learned to drive. I was just never interested before that and also a bit nervous. My DH drove me to and picked me up when I was meeting friends but he took very ill 5 years ago and although he is fully recovered now I decided to book lessons. I passed my test first time within three months and absolutely adore driving. That was five years ago and have just renewed my licence as I will be 70 this month. One of the best things I've ever done...ps I had a great driving instructor which helped.

Mollyplop Sat 01-Jun-19 10:13:29

My Mum was widowed at 68 and started to learn to drive. She learnt in an automatic and passed her test and bought her first car. She's never looked back! Do it! Xx

Hampshirehog Sat 01-Jun-19 10:15:21

My Mother learnt to drive when she was in her 50s and passed her test first time.

Sealover Sat 01-Jun-19 10:20:30

Definitely do it! Definitely an automatic, they are so much more easily available now. Go for it. Too old bah!

allule Sat 01-Jun-19 10:22:14

Age is not the only factor to consider. I had to take over the driving in my sixties, when my husband, who loved driving, had to give up. He could never understand my reluctance, but I think it was mainly a question of confidence, and feeling I wouldn't be able to cope with an emergency. I always felt relief when I got home.
I finally decided to please myself. I have just sold my car, and call the proceeds my taxi fund. It's such a relief not to have to worry about tax, or insurance, or servicing....oh...or driving!

mamaa Sat 01-Jun-19 10:22:48

Not too old- my SIL learnt in her 50's and passed 1st time; and at least 2 work colleagues did similar. Go for it!

Davida1968 Sat 01-Jun-19 10:24:26

A female relative learned in her 60s - she found driving an automatic to be the best option. Now widowed, she's still driving in her late 80s. Learning to drive is such a wise decision - go for it!